I am too wet, my boyfriend thinks I am sleeping around, please help....

skyzalimit · Jun 30, 2010, 02:25 AM

This is outrageous. You're wet because you're turned on! Find something online about the physiology of your wetness and show him so he understands it's nothing to do with sleeping around.

If he doesn't feel you maybe he's worried his penis is too small and is blaming you to make himself feel better.

To make him able to feel you, you could try doing Kegel exercises (tighten and let go the muscles down there 20 times 3 times a day); use a condom that has sensation bumps inside it; hold his penis on the outside of you so there is more resistance; or maybe try anal sex (use plenty of lube).

But most importantly don't let him tell you you are wrong in any way to be getting wet- he should love it, smother himself in it, revel in it. It's just you being natural!

Synnen · Jun 30, 2010, 05:33 AM

This is your boyfriend's problem.

And frankly, it sounds like you are both young, and that he's just stupid.

Take him to your gynecologist with you and get her to explain to him how the female body works.

ZoeMarie · Jun 30, 2010, 05:40 AM

Has he mentioned how he thinks you have changed?

Cat1864 · Jun 30, 2010, 06:21 AM

Gaman, how old are you and your boyfriend? How long have you been together? What kind of birth control/contraceptive are you using? How long has he been 'complaining'? Have you noticed a physical change in yourself or him? Does he seem to be having issues with maintaining an erection or climaxing during other sexual acts?

I think this may be less about the amount of lubrication you produce and more about the relationship. He seems insecure and probably has caused his own issues but is blaming you. I hope he isn't voicing his 'issues' during intercourse.

If you can't talk openly and honestly with him about what is going on with your bodies and any concerns (and possible solutions), then you shouldn't be having sex with him.

excon · Jun 30, 2010, 06:24 AM

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Originally Posted by gaman

I do not want to loose him what can I do to reduce the wetness

Hello g:

Instead of thinking about how GOOD it feels, think about those New Jersey housewives... That'll dry you up like a prune... But, if it was me, I'd lose HIM before I'd lose GOOD sex.

excon

LJDK · Jun 30, 2010, 07:19 AM

I use to think the same thing in the beginning of my relationship. With time this will pass, the over wet issue.

As for your boyfriend, he needs some real life talking to, by a peer. Someone other than you, who could place things in perspective. A friend who has had more experience with this, or maybe his mother.

Synnen · Jun 30, 2010, 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by LJDK

I use to think the same thing in the beginning of my relationship. With time this will pass, the over wet issue.

As for your boyfriend, he needs some real life talking to, by a peer. Someone other than you, who could place things in perspective. A friend who has had more experience with this, or maybe his mother.

No offense, but there's no way in H-E-double-hockey-sticks that I would be talking to my potential mother-in-law about talking to her son about our sex life.

Um...no.

He doesn't need a peer--he needs to grow up and realize that the issue is HIM and not HER.

Perhaps the OP could suggest that he go to counseling for his insecurity issues?

smoothy · Jun 30, 2010, 07:23 AM

The boyfriend is a jerk.

Getting really wet means you are really turned on...if he wants to sleep with a dried up prune....point him to the closest retirement home.

And besides that accusing you of sleeping around for no good reason is a good reason on its own to dump him.

He's paranoid and doesn't know a good thing when he has it.

You deserve better.

adam_89 · Jun 30, 2010, 07:31 AM

Wow, How dumb is this guy you are with?

I am too wet, my boyfriend thinks I am sleeping around, please help....

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