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the boy i go out with has been my bestfriend for a year and a few months
we fell for each other then relized how much we liked each other and started dating.
he is the sweetest boy i know and i love him a lot and i really hope i stay with him forever.
this is the first time i have fell for a guy this hard , me and him are both still virgins
and i have been thinking about it a lot lately and i really want him to be my first
but i don't know when to make my move. he is really shy when it comes to those things
the most he has done with a girl is made out. but he is really respectful when it comes to that kind of stuff because he dosnt want to make a move and it not be a good time.
i told him we will know when the time comes if were ready. but i think i am ready
at the age of 18, I feel like both of you are old enough to make your own decisions and live with the consequences (the law says you are...so why not).
however, people generally tell you "don't have sex until you're physically, financially, and emotionally ready to have a child"
from your post, it seems like you two are very mature and respect each other and quite possibly love one another very much.
for me, I lost my virginity at 17 with a girl I dated for 3 years at the time. while I don't regret this decision, some might tell me that I wasn't ready.
I suggest talking to a parent (if you talk to your parents about sex) or a counselor about this decision. Think about it for a while. and bring it up to the guy as well and see what he thinks.
if you go through with it...be sure to use protection
sound slike you've already made up your mind that you want to, so other than a reminder to use protection i'm gonna skip the warning lecture.
make your first time extra special. for my first time, i walked into my room to find that my bf had lit all of my candles (i used to have a slight candle obession. lol). it automatically set the mood. i was wearing adorable lingerie (some girls are like, it has to be victoria's secret! my view on lingerie: so much fun, but it's gonna come off. so i say go for something cheap and cute if you're on a budget.) you just have to be bold enough to start making the moves. foreplay is a must. start with making out. then start teasing. undress each of you slowly. start with the touching and everything. and drop clues ahead of time that you're ready so that he won't be too shy or worried about pressuring you when the time comes.
Hm.....I would add that I don't think you should "force it"....you have made up your mind, now wait for a really emotional, hot moment between *both* of you.
The most important thing is communication. Make sure that this is also something that he wants to do. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and that you have both waited to make this special. Even though everyone has already said this, please remember to use protection, both for pregnancy and std's, even though you are both virgins, it's a good habit to get into. Good luck.
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