I am gay and I am 18 years old. I have known for ages and I don't want to come out to my friends and family. When I was younger, although I knew that I was gay I still went out with boys to be certain and to cover up. But when I got older and I knew I was certain I stop dating boys and since then I haven't been with anyone and im pretty lonely. Not only coz I havent been with anyone but I have no one to talk to about it either. I dont want to come out to my friends or family but I want to come out to someone and I don't want to be so lonely. Please does some one know wot to do?
I am gay and I am 18 years old. I have known for ages and I don't want to come out to my friends and family. When I was younger, although I knew that I was gay I still went out with boys to be certain and to cover up. But when I got older and I knew I was certain I stop dating boys and since then I haven't been with anyone and im pretty lonely. Not only coz I havent been with anyone but I have no one to talk to about it either. I dont want to come out to my friends or family but I want to come out to someone and I don't want to be so lonely. Please does some one know wot to do?
Hi there;
Are you in a town with a University? Often they have coming out/support groups for young adults. This might be a good way to come out and meet others going through the same situation as you. This is how I first came out.
Hi there;
Are you in a town with a University? Often they have coming out/support groups for young adults. This might be a good way to come out and meet others going through the same situation as you. This is how I first came out.
thanx, I will look into that and if i have the courage i will go to one
Slek, it isn't going to be easy for you to tell your family and friends, but I do think it won't be as hard as you may think it will be.
Ren is right on the money suggesting support groups at your school. Any mental health centre will have counsellors available as well. You need to know that you are not alone, and also to gain the confidence you need to live your life without this being a secret.
There is a rich, rewarding life for you when you free yourself of this burden of silence.
Maybe you are so lonely because you don't fit in with your straight friends, and you haven't established bonds with any gay friends, and you aren't living as free as you could be.
Please seek out the advice of others who have been where you are now. The longer you wait to help yourself, the longer you will be lonely.
Do you think that you're lonely because you're gay or because of other reasons, please?
Thanks!
I think I feel lonely because there is no one to talk to about it.
Even little things like when im out with my friends and a guy goes past and they say he's "well fit", sometimes i want to say something about a girl but know I can't.
Slek, it isn't going to be easy for you to tell your family and friends, but I do think it won't be as hard as you may think it will be.
Ren is right on the money suggesting support groups at your school. Any mental health centre will have counsellors available as well. You need to know that you are not alone, and also to gain the confidence you need to live your life without this being a secret.
There is a rich, rewarding life for you when you free yourself of this burden of silence.
Maybe you are so lonely because you don't fit in with your straight friends, and you haven't established bonds with any gay friends, and you aren't living as free as you could be.
Please seek out the advice of others who have been where you are now. The longer you wait to help yourself, the longer you will be lonely.
Thank you, the thing is I want to come out and Im certain that im gay but don't want to come out to my friends and family until I've been with someone and I know thats it's not a phase, I really believe its not a phase but if it is... well all this would have been nothing and I would just feel really silly. But then I think if I don't come out then no one will know so it will be harder for me to find someone.
I think im lonely more to do with the fact that you say I haven't established bonds with any gay friends, My neighbours are gay and they are extremely nice people, I love talking to them and everyday I think about telling them. And when I do hopefully I will find support through them, because I think these support groups sound really good but I know that I wouldn't go by myself.
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