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Old Sep 21, 2007, 02:28 PM
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About my past relationship?

I lost my virginity,when i was 17 years old,and for 1 year,were always making out and having sex with my ex-boyfriend.But 6 years from now,ive never had a sex with the other guy.Until ive met my fiance,and were decided to getting married soon.And i don't want him to find out that i'm not a virgin. Is there any chances to be tighten my hymen again?

Please answer my question right away,cause i'm getting worried thanks!!!
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Old Sep 21, 2007, 03:00 PM   #2  
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Hymens are not renewable - they do not grow back. I do think you should be honest with your fiance. You can tell him it was six years ago and that was it. Then there is the school of thought that what happened before he came into your life is not his business. If it were me, I would tell him I am not a virgin. If he cannot accept that, then you deserve better.
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No, honey, you can't pretend to be a virgin again. Your hymen isn't something you can regrow like that. Just tell this guy that you have had sex before. Would he have a problem with that for religious reasons? If so, just explain to him that you didn't have the same beliefs as you do now. Have you already told him u were a virgin? Sit him down and explain that you lied because you didn't want him to leave u. Tell him you need to be honest with him about this before u are married. You can't start a marriage with a lie. It may not seem like a big thing now, but it will make you grow apart. If he can't deal with it, he is shallow. FYI-after 6 years, your hymen won't grow back but you should be pretty tight again. If he is a virgin, honestly, he probably won't know the difference. But I would recommend telling him. Good luck!
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I wonder why you do not want to tell you fiancé about it?? Are you coming from very stricted family or society like in middle east for example if a girl was not virgin on her wedding night she might end up killed or divorced??? Or you are from a society which does not matter these issue but you were not honest with your fiancé at the beginning of your relationship and did not tell him about your past . If your answer is yes to the first question then you can fix that with an surgery I heard about it ...if your answer is yes to my 2nd question then there is not reason to hide it from your fiancé just tell him about your past since he has the right to judge you only from the day you knew him not earlier...

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thats quite B I T C H Y! u shouldn't be fooling on him that way! be honest and humble to him u might not need to tighten things up!
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Why not just be honest, Have you already lied about it?

The past is the past. What happened in the past, should be in the past and nothing to worry about. Unless there is another reason why you are wanting to hide this?
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Telling a lie about your past is far worse than being honest about it.

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