What is with guys and their obsession with having a 3-some?

Must be the guys you are finding, And that they are just wanting sex, not really in love.

Of course if they want to have another guy having sex with them too, I guess that is their business

It's a challenge, because it's not easy to find two women who will agree to it. It's a sort of male badge of honor, at least for some men.

My experience, if the guy really cares about you, he won't ask you to be a part of a threesome, if he does, then run!

Because it more. More fun with more people. Because its part of a hard wire because men are more physical reacting than women.
How about the cave man thing with more chance of survival for the clan and get more cave women pregnant for tribal survival. How about a threesome also mixes up the blood line to get away form to close cousin incest and less deformed babies. How abut thousands of years of this and now a society change rule.
Basically its hard wire. The concur aspect plays a big role again hard wire. Lets just do the American human being. I WANT MORE and as much as I can get. This is said without throwing the fantasies factor in yet.
This answer should help. I'm not condoning it its just answer the WHY actor.

Things about 3somes you should know as a adult if you plan to make this choice

1. If you are in a commited relationship it will be like watching your parter/you cheat on each other (depending on what happens). If you really don't want a open relationship and you really don't want to see your partner kiss another person it's a bad idea (vice versa)
   
2. No matter how much protection you use you can still get pregnant. And then you have no idea who the father is if it's 2 guys. Or if it's 2 girls both of you could get pregnant and congrats on your double baby shower with your best friend who got pregnant by your lover/boyfriend/fiance/husband (the friend position may not be there anymore after that when she's asking for child support)
3. Guys are healthy and normal when they look at other woman. It may be just a thought and you probably should choose not to act on it. Guys basic repoductive instinct is to get girls pregnant and spread his gene pool as wide as possible.
4. 3somes are best when you're single and there are no real strings attached. If you want to... consider all the risk... make sure to protect yourself... and be yourself

I was thinking back to how life was for people a long time ago, and I think that folks lived together in caves and large huts a lot of the time and had sex in the large area with folks sitting around doing their chores. The object was to survive, so wondering if there were rules, or sex was as natural as eating dinner?


I'm *not* for threesomes or orgies due to personal experience and my innate shyness about nudity.

I think it is people that you are meeting because not every guy out there wants to have a 3-some, I for one find the idea not a turn on at all and it would do nothing to float my boat... But also with that in mind I always say each to there own.

I think taking a relationship to this kind of level can be a big breaking point because both people would really need to be into this kind of thing or your just killing the relationship and setting problems ahead.

I'll play the devils advocate here being I am a guy who has had a couple threesomes with two different girlfriends... but they were at the request of the women, not my initiation.

Most guys fantasize about it. Few actually ever get a chance to try it. Finding two women who would not be at each others throats is a huge obsticle itself. And trust me you do NOT want to push a woman into this unless they are already 150% behind the idea.

Even then it might cause insurmountible problems in your relationship afterwards. And is that really worth it? Fantasies rarely live up to what your imagination has made of them.

I was part of a devils threesome, myself and two men, I'm still friends with them to this day. Why? How? None of us were dating each other, we were all just friends who had a stupid moment and decided to do this. There were some problems afterwards, but we sorted them out and now it's in the past.

We don't talk about it, which is why we can all still be friends.

It's a fantasy, and not nearly as good as porn movies depict. You're dealing with more then just sex. Human emotion comes into play, and we humans are very unpredictable with our emotions. You may think that you can handle it, but only a handful of people actually can.

That's my take on it anyway.