Can anyone give me any suggestions? We have been married for a year and a half but we have been together for over 8 years. I know that is a long time, but he is so young. Is he tired of sex already? He almost never initiates sex (maybe once every three months). I TRY to initiate sex several times a week. I am 23 and very much enjoy sex. He will laughingly say "It's too cold" "I'm lazy" etc. After an hour of jokingly ignoring me I will ask him flat out if he will have sex with me and he says no. I can't just try to turn him on because he says he doesn't like that and won't let me touch him.
We still have sex almost once a week, but if I didn't initiate it, it might never happen. Sometimes he will say he wanted some the night before but he saw that I was going to bed, etc. He doesn't want it bad enough to say anything?
Also, we have a GREAT relationship. Perfect besides this issue and I do not suspect unfaithfulness at all. He has been this way for quite a while. At times he will say I am nagging him...wouldn't most guys love their wives to be so horny that they would beg for sex?
Thanks for reading our history and thanks for your help!!

Fr_Chuck

There are many factors, work, medication he could be on, stress,
And of course just everything being the same, sorta bored, it does happen,

Instead of asking, wearing sexy outfit and dancing in front of him, do a surprise date, or other things

CHAYOTE23

Teach23, have you tried talking to your husband and letting him know how you feel and letting him know he needs to change in order to have a better relationship. However, the concept of love and in a relationship is not about sex because of the dynamics of two people in love. Teach23, if you truly love your husband and he love you the both of you may want to attend seek professional help from a Family Counselor.

teach23

I have talked to him about it. He gets offended when I act like this isn't normal. He just says he is not that horny.
And he doesn't really like lingerie and stuff. And I am to the point now where I feel like an idiot going overboard and getting turned down. So to save a little bit of my self respect, I don't go too overboard anymore.
Besides we are married. I try not to let him see me walk around naked too often so it doesn't lose its appeal, but he still sees me and evidently that doesn't get him going. I am attractive and he thinks so too... ???

teach23

Also, he does not get stressed out really. He has a very relaxing life. Works only a few hours a day. And I am the one that would love to change things up a bit...have sex in other rooms, roleplay, etc. But he always heads straight to the bedroom everytime. If he is bored, he should jump on those things right?
He is not on any medication. He doesn't really see it as a problem like I do...

Yankeesfans2

Well a few things to try.. maybe try giving him oral while hes watching TV at night, Maybe try a vibrator and let him know your using it and maybe he will realize he much rather be with you, then you by youself? You know just try different things. Yes I would think men would like a wife begging for it I know my husband would..lol.....

Megg

Personally, i've been going through a simular situation. I haven't been in the mood lately, for sexual things, he asks me if something is wrong. I find myslef getting upset when he asks me. I'm like nothing is wrong and he keeps asking, so if you ask a lot try to tone it down. Other than that, i think you need to ask him if you can talk to him, you have something bugging you. Explain that you've enjoyed being in this relationship and that you love him. Just let him know how much he's ment to you and anything he's helped you with. But then say that our sex life is dying and i feel that sex is a way to show our love for eachother. It brings us closer and keeps a healthy relaionship. Also remember, fyi, you really shouldn't do sexual things if it's for the wrong reasons, or he's doing it to just ''shut u up''. I mean it's ment to show love and it's supposed to be fun and exciting. Maybe your lives are too route. Try taking a walk, making him dinner by candle light and or writting a love note. Don't go overborad and be naughty or too overpowering. Just a quite evening enjoying each other's company. I mean, in my relationship things get to be the same, and i'm bored often. So, if we spiced things up a bit or went places more it would be better. I hope what i've said is helpful. Good luck and keep us posted!