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im a 19 year old male and im a virgin. its completely my choice(ive turned down sex more times than anybody i know). im an atheist so this has nothing to do with any sort of religion, i just want something more than a quick ya know. ive only dated one person seriously. she was a Christian so there was no problems avoiding it there. but here lately ive run into a huge bump. im in college and i get alot of attention from the opposite sex and its getting really hard to turn down. and all the girls get pissed when i say no and want nothing to do with me. im afraid of throwing away my values, but im a guy and my primal instincts are running rampant.
i could go on but it takes to much time so here are my questions
are there any girls left that want to connect instead of and run.
and what can i do to cope with my temptations.
do girls even like virgins.
edit- to makes things a little more clear im not apposed to sex at all in fact i want it i just need a bond for me to be comfortable.
Your virgininty is one thing no one can take away from you keep it until you feel it is right. When you meet the right girl she will not be bothered that you are a virgin.
I want the same thing as you. I am 21 male virgin but I've not exactly had girls throw themselves at me.
Yes you may be gaging for it sometimes. But I still think you should NOT throw away your values. Anyone that gets pissed at you after you tell them what you want is not worth it.
Question: Are most young women like this? Maybe you need to meet older women.
You sound like a terrific guy. Why not look in a more mature age group for an affair(30ish). Lots of women love virgin boys because they are more honest emotionally and learn very quickly. They are very easy to love in a non-physical way as well as a physical way.
In order to meet good women, you have to be out in life, not in bars or in your room. A part time job in a restaurant in a university town would be a good place to meet all kinds of women and practice conversation with older women. Also, participating in co-ed sports that older women play like tennis and golf. I just learned that bowling is making a comeback! Being on a bowling team in a large co-ed bowling league makes for meeting all kinds of people.
Be open to meeting all kinds of women from all walks of life just to get to know women....time to start broadening your horizons and slowly get out of your insular student life to date.
i'm still a virgin and would love to find a guy the same way. so yes there are girls out there. i go to the bars and clubs and would have to say that i'm a party girl but i keep my morals and values about me. no matter how skimpy i dress....thats the most you will ever see of me! lol. i figure you won't find something if you are looking to hard....it just bumps into i guess. (take for exapmle when you tear your room apart looking for the essay due in a hour and what do you know...it was right there all along) i don't know. thats just my take on it.
i'm still a virgin and would love to find a guy the same way. so yes there are girls out there. i go to the bars and clubs and would have to say that i'm a party girl but i keep my morals and values about me. no matter how skimpy i dress....thats the most you will ever see of me! lol. i figure you won't find something if you are looking to hard....it just bumps into i guess. (take for exapmle when you tear your room apart looking for the essay due in a hour and what do you know...it was right there all along) i don't know. thats just my take on it.
MMMM shorty, I'm not entirely convinced the way you describe your attitude/dress and places that you frequent make me think that YOU are actually looking in the wrong places yourself and sending conflicting messages.....
MMMM shorty, I'm not entirely convinced the way you describe your attitude/dress and places that you frequent make me think that YOU are actually looking in the wrong places yourself and sending conflicting messages.....
Why don't you get in a serious relationship? If you are around girls who only want one night stands... well what does that really say about what kind of person they are? If you are looking to "connect", it sounds as if you are the kind if guy who needs to be comfortable with who hes with. Why not get into a relationship? Its very hard to connect with girls who don't want the same thing. But you are definitly in the minority! A guy who wants a relationship over sex? Its not common to find a guy your age who wants to stay commited to one woman! That fact alone should draw the right kind of woman to you. Sometimes you have to look for the right one too, when you do, let her know. Its not about sex all the time, sometimes you need to love someone first. Goodluck!
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