Hi, I'm a 19 year-old male. This may sound kinda weird, but I can't help noticing that all my friends, and just about everyone I know is sexually experienced/active. I'm a virgin, and alot of people treat me like I'm stupid when I tell them that. What's going on around me? Is it stupid to be a virgin? If it is, why hasn't anyone had sex with me? What's this world coming to?

Jesushelper76

It is very rare now a days to be a virgin at the age of 19 years old. There is nothing wrong with that. I was a virgin until close to my wedding which I was 28 years old and waiting for that right person to share my life with. Who cares what other people think or what they are doing doesnt mean a ---- thing. Do what is right for you and wait for that special someone and waiting for that special someone to have that experiance with is very important. Hope this helps you.

Joe

fredg

Hi,
At 63 yrs old, married 28 yrs, I applaud you !!!!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at 19 yrs old.
Here are some facts that you might be interested in:
1. According to the major news networks on TV, at least 40% of all girls in the US are pregnant before they are 20 yrs old !!! NO contraceptives are 100% effective.
Do you want to take a chance on being a Daddy at 19?

2. At least half of all marriages in the US end in Divorce.
I know you didn't mention marriage, but some younger Daddys believe that if they get married, it solves everything with pregnancy.....it doesn't when it ends in Divorce, with the Daddy paying monthly child support, maybe $300 per month.

With all that said, there is also something else. Please wait to have sex, until you find someone you really care for, respect, be honest with, and she in turn, treats you the same way.
All these friends of yours who are having sex, are really taking a chance every time they do. If they aren't using condems, then they are taking a chance on pregnancy, also on getting many, many different sex diseases; some really serious, some can be "healed" by a doctor in a few weeks.
Wait as long as you can, and believe me, it WILL happen; you will have sex with the right girl/woman.

lilfyre

nymphetamine

i didnt lose mine till i was 20 yrs old. but yeah everyone likes to act all weird around you huh? Now i know maybe its just me but i always thought my virginity was a sacred thing and its your body and your buisness. youll be proud of your self for not listening to them. i bet some of them are virgins too and only pretend to not be. knowing about some moves in the bed dont mean they arent either. dnt let them get to you.

nwsflash

talaniman

I wouldn't put a lot of stock into anyone who would put you down just for being a virgin after all its your choice who you have sex with isn't it.That you would stick by your guns and not give in to the peer pressure around you gives you 100 points in my book!Let everyone do as they will and be proud of the fact not only are you more mature but also wiser than most of those around you!You don't need help you need a round of applause.

Fr_Chuck

First no not everyone is as sexually active as you may think, and in this world of seroius STD and babies out of wedlock, I don't understand why everyone is as active as they are. But the plain trouth is that while some may have slight experience due to raging harmones they can't control, it is the better person who has control over thier emotions.

Anyone can give into thier anmimal lust, but a true man controls his and knows that emtional love and sex is the best and when happen when that time is right with that right person.

I have counseled with so many people who are sad, upset that they let and gave away such a special part of thierself to just anyone too early. It is something that can not be undone.

And beleive me, as one of the bigger story tellers around the locker room,
teens don't have near as much sex as they talk about.

andydude88

hey look on the bright side at least you're not a 40 year old virgin lol

nymphetamine

And what exactly is wrong with that?