ok i am 19 years old and i am still a virgin and i feel like a freak... the only thing is that no one knows i am. everyone thinks i have had sex multiple times and probably wouldn't believe me if i told them otherwise... this makes it hard for me to actually have sex because i feel that i'm just gonna be god awful and have no idea what i am doing (sexual experience 0) and girls expect me to be good in bed, is it weird to be a virgin at 19? why doesn't this come easier to me? i mean i have had plenty of opportunities i just didn't want my first time to be with a slutty girl i didn't have feelings for, should i just say screw it and have sex with the next girl that comes my way and if so should i tell her straight up? or should i continue to wait? i want to find someone special to loose it to, but it seems that girls aren't interested in inexperienced men and i feel the longer i wait the worse my situation is gonna get...

plonak

You should wait!!!! Sex is not something you should just get out of the way. wait until marriage or if you don't want that wait until you find love. When you find the right woman she won't care if you're not experienced she will love you no matter what...and you will get more experienced over time.. and who cares what other people think, when you find the right girl, tell her that you're a virgin and you want to wait.. guaranteed if she's a good girl, she will LOVE to hear that..innocence it's a good quality in a guy now-a-days..

suddenImpact

I lost my virginity when I was 19. I guess the big difference, is everyone knew I was a virgin. I didn't care that other people knew, so if someone asked, I'd tell 'em I was. If I were you, I would not just run out and have sex with anyone. I'm glad I waited and found someone I really had feelings for. Just tell her your a virgin, and that your not ready yet. You want to either wait for marriage (your choice), or just until your more comfortable with her. For me personally, a lot of foreplay was the best way to go. Tell her you just want to mess around a while, after a few weeks (months, or years) maybe it will lead to something more.

simoneaugie

There are guys with years of sexual experience who do it like virgins.

With someone you really care about, someone you can talk to, tell her just what's up. Ask her what she likes and learn to please her. It may take plenty of practice. Until you do that, you are still a great guy.

Virginity is not something to be embarrassed about. If it continues to bother you, think of it like a pimple on your nose. It will eventually go away.

Choux

My opinion is that I think you should think of dating a lot over the next 2-3 years and having sex with a girl you really like. Virginity is a great burden as the years pass by. I had sex first when I was 21, and that was just about right.

Just a bit of wisdom from me......the first few times a man has sex with a new, non-sluttish girl/woman...it isn't all that great because of natural holding back and shyness on the part of the woman and newness of the intimate sharing. My point being, all you have to be is good at foreplay which is easy, and feel your way *slowly* through the penetration and stroking. Just don't worry about that part! Don't get all apologetic....newness is newness.

Sex gets really good after about 4-5 times with a new pairing as you and your girl feel more and more comfortable with all that is going on!

britster

Im 19 and i find it a turn on that your a virgin...you shouldnt just have sex cause u want to not be a virgin. You sound like a very nice gentlemen dont worry she will come to you...and when she does you will be so happy that you waited. hang in there buddy

DMA

virginity is not an illness. everyone is born a virgin. loosing it as soon as possible is not a good thing in my opinion. i'm a 21 year old virgin if it makes you feel a little better

Altenweg

Virginity isn't a badge that you wear, the reverse of a scarlet letter. Enjoy your life, don't be so hung up on being a virgin, it really isn't that big a deal. You say that you want it to be special, with someone you care about, well, considering the type of person you are, it's very likely that you will meet someone wonderful, caring, loving, who is also a virgin. It's really nothing to worry about, and a guy that's a virgin is a major turn on to most women.

Good luck.

sacsunshine

Hi! I am a 22 year old female and from my college experiences I have learned that there are so many people not having sex that are in their late teens/early twenties! You are not alone! Actually, the first time I had sex I was 19 and my boyfriend-at-the-time was 19, as well. We were both virgins. I had been with him about six months before we decided to do it together. Due to circumstances, we broke up (mutually), but we were together for a little more than three years. I am seeing another wonderful person, and he is 26 years old; he will be 27 in a few months. He has never had sex before and indeed never been naked with any person! He told me that the reason he simply never had sex with anyone was because he was not comfortable with them enough to share that experience; we are planning on our first sex experience very soon, but we prefer to call it love-making. Anyways, you should never have sex if you do not feel ready! If you have to ask the question concerning whether you are ready or not then you really are not ready- plain and simple. Also, you should do it with someone that you love, and if not love then at least like deeply/care about/trust and are comfortable with very much so! Sorry to write such a long pose, but I wish you well. When you do meet a wonderful girl/woman, whether or not she is "the one" or "the one (for right now)" then you'll have amazing sex for the pure reason that you care deeply/trust/ and are comfortable with her!

Jesushelper76

You should wait. Wait for that special one. Who cares what anybody else thinks. You should be proud that your still a virgin.