| I do not know why my answer was removed from this list? But to answer your original question Erica, you cannot have a finalized adoption revoked if it was done legally. Where both biological parents signed relinquishment to the adoptive parents. From reading the other threads, I understand what others maybe going through grief, over their adoption choices of the past. Because my own birth mother had as well.
My bmother continued to worry about me. Her entire life. Yet, open records and open adoption was not optional at the time. And she did not believe in abortion. She wanted her child to have a loving, Catholic, stable home at the time with two parents. And required it through the adoption agency. And they provided as such to her and her child for placement.
And on another point, I do hope that you were not coericed into your desire for relinquishment. Which happens often and then birthmother spends her life missing her child, for instance. Like mine did. She was informed that her child could no longer be kept in a foster home situation. They lied to her and coericed her into believing that if she did not choose adoption, her child would be basically throw into her never ending turmoil of a life again without her ability to keep her child at home with her and her family, and she had already tried to raise her child by herself, without help and found it overwhelming alone. So, she felt she had no other choice but to choose adoption, if the agency wasn't able to keep her child fostered until her life stablized.
Yet, many birthmothers do go on with their lives, after adoption.And some don't. Some become emotionally disabled through missing their child and regretting the choices that they made for that child or in their lives at the time. Like mine did.
Or they may still care for the safety and well being of the child that they carried for 10 calender months. This is why open adoption is fundamentally a requirement for a birthmother now-a-days, in order for her to even consider possible adoptive parents. Yet, it does not mean that the adoptive parents will honor that agreement after finalization of said adoption.
Either way, for whatever the reason, a child is now in a hopeful home with loving and stable parents.
And you need to take their feelings as well as your child's feelings into consideration. Depending upon how long they may have been fostered in the home, and when the child was adopted, how old your child is, etc.
Whatever you do, always keep your child's best interest at heart.
First and foremost.
Many of us have different opinion's about this. Because adoption of a child is a very emotional experience for everyone in the Adoption Triad Family.
A couple who wishes to love a child. A child needing a loving and stable home. A biological mother who may have decided upon adoption for her child or may have not had a choice in the matter due to any number of circumstances.
Without further details from you, we are at a loss in order to advise you. And it is my hope that what has been stated on this thread by everyone involved reaches you. And that you come to your own conclusion in the matter.
Adoptive parents know the risks of biological parents changing their mind during adoption proceeding's. Until finalization. At that time, they become a real family. Legally. As well as emotionally.
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