i am looking for my son i keep hitting roadblocks today i found out it was a closed adoption i need to know how to get these records opened

GV70

I do not want to disappointment you...but you cannot open the records.

sharon2435

Sound easy, but once the child is adopted, its a done deal, unless the child was apoted thru family member and that's call PMC. Pray about, if the child was taken or given up for adoption, think about how you will hurt the other that is now caring for the kid. Pray can change alot,

nikki_22

Try online adoption websites. You can post info and look for people who may be looking for you. I'm adopted and looking for my bio parents(closed adoption also). Hope you find your son!

MOWERMAN2468

well, i hate to disappoint you, but closed adoption is closed period. there is no way of opening these records.

MOWERMAN2468

nikki, you will probably not have much luck, your name could have been changed as well as the location of birth. this is a fact, the two children we adopted have birth certificates showing me and my wife as the biological parents, and also was issued by the state we live in. and neither of them were borned there in that state. so you see what i am trying to tell you is a closed adoption will have many avenues, and short of illegally entering into the files (probably breaking and entering) then you will hit dead end after dead end. sorry but that is how the system works.

MOWERMAN2468

have to spread some around, but sealed is SEALED, so correct.

J_9

The only way a sealed adoption can be opened is by way of a medical problem and then it will be unsealed by a court order only.

Synnen

Not to be a horrible person or anything--but frankly, the adoptive parents shouldn't be "hurt" by a search and/or reunion.

They had the care and love of their child--but someone else loved that child enough to choose adoption, and I can't blame them for wanting information on the child.

The only person's feelings that should really be considered are her son's--if HE doesn't want a reunion, then that should be the end of it.

Whether or not the adoptive parents are "hurt" by a search shouldn't be the birthparent's concern.

That being said--it is EXTREMELY difficult to open records in a closed adoption. Laws are starting to change on this, but it's slow, and by the time most states allow it to happen, most of the adoptions will have been open or semi-open anyway.

If this is the case of medical information, you can appeal to the courts in the county where you gave birth, and it's possible that records may be opened. If it's just a search for a reunion, to make sure your son is happy and healthy--well, your best luck then is to register in the county you gave birth, with the agency the adoption was done through, and with sites like adoption.com and adopteeconnect.com. That essentially takes the search out of your hands, though, and puts it in the hands of your son, who may or may not want to connect with you. Please be prepared to connect through a third party--your son may not want anything to do with you. You should probably also see a counselor that specializes in adoption (many have sliding scale fees) to make sure you understand where YOU stand emotionally and mentally BEFORE reuniting with your son.

Good luck! I hope that things work out well for you.

FeelSoNumbZombie

ren,
Don't know how old the kid is? If he/she is an adult, go to www.adoption.com and register.
If he/she is a kid, and you did not sign away your rights, go to a lawyer or legal aid. Or the department of social services. See where you are and what you can do first. Your adult? child maybe searching for you as well.