| Well, MY question to YOU is---how old of a girl are you planning to adopt?
Yes, there are a lot of kids out there that need parents, but most of them are NOT infants, or even toddlers. Are you willing to look at getting a kindergartener or older in order to have a girl? Believe it or not, with infertility on the rise, and more women choosing to be single parents than who choose adoption--adopting an infant, ESPECIALLY a baby, just isn't as easy as you'd think. Ask any woman who has been on a waiting list for years for an adoption.
Also--with adopting an older child (especially through the foster care system)--are you ready to deal with any issues that child may have about memories of birth parents, or abuse, or neglect?
Secondly--I am the first female born on my dad's side of the family in 5 generations. I was followed shortly thereafter by a sister and 4 female cousins before another boy was born. Don't discount YOUR genetics in getting a female child as well.
I seem to have a lot of questions for you, instead of answering YOUR question--but I want to see how much you have actually looked into adoption yourself. There are plenty of facts you could share with your husband--but if you're really looking to adopt, I suggest you talk to an adoption counselor first, to make SURE you understand what you may be getting into. Adoption isn't just walking into an agency and walking out with an infant, and worrying about contacting the birthparents when the child is "older" or "18" or whatever, anymore, and most people just starting to look at adoptions have a very 1950s view about them. So--are YOU prepared for everything that comes with a modern adoption? Because if you don't have all the facts, you can't convince your husband of anything.
Frankly--I have been trying for seven years to have a child. I'd just be happy with "healthy" at this point. The gender wouldn't make a fig of a difference to me. | 
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