I am trying to find out about my bio parents. I was adopted at birth in Hayward California on Nov 5,1968. I have no information about my birth parents. I now have 3 boys of my own and I really want to be able to give them a heritage. Can anyone help me?

jrussole

Yep, lets agree to disagree. This adoptee and her birthmother have an option to be reunited. And it is there right to do as such. I have pm'd the poster. It is up to both of them to contact me. I will be more than willing to reunite them and confirm that there is a definitive match. They are each seeking each other! And it is my hope that they each are able to find comfort within their hearts, finally! Or in the least, the adoptee to receive her medical information. And for this nurse and mother, that in and of itself is invaluable!

After all, finding the birthmothers post was just too easy! I mean literally within 2 minutes of searching- I found her! Each usual search takes anywhere from minutes to days to years to never at times. It is my hope that each of them contact me. Because, I am on the edge of my seat with anticipation and hope for a perfect match! Yet, only a definitive DNA test can determine when its a private adoption. There is no usual trail of documentation other than the adoption decree for verification. And if both parties have altered copies for confidentiality- it may take a little time for confirmation.

For me, all it took was getting that first email pic of my birthmother! And learning of my medical risks, life changing! I had the documentation, but just the sight of her- rested the very core of my soul. It was as if I found my missing link. Or a piece of my life puzzle that was always missing. And without it, the puzzled picture was never complete. Just an amazing feeling and an amazing journey!

And finding her and her family didn't replace the mother that raised me and loved me! After all, it couldn't! That's why I help others. Riding on their coat tails of discovery! Because when those adoptees finally get their missing pieces of their own puzzle, it is what volunteering to help them and suport them is all about- love and understanding and not judging them, nor their first mother.

Gosh! It's always a nice feeling to Pay it Forward!

jewels0833

Hi there I am a adoptee also out of the state of Calif what I suggest you to do is contact the adoption agencey you were adopted threw and ask for a non id that is the first step and I will keep checking back here to see if you have recieved it and I can help you locate your bio parents ok?? If you want to send me a email privately please feel free to do so my email is
hugs Julie Richards
ps one piece of advice from one adoptee to another; "don't give up"

FeelSoNumbZombie

Please do not listen to any negative people in this world. Especially being an adoptee, finding your birth family, or the what if's.
You are an adult. Your birth mother and father are an adults. He/she maybe searching for you. And it is up to you and your belief system to decided what is best for you and your first family and to search for him/her. There have been many happy reunion's. Don't let anyone tell you differently.
There is an adoptee support group: Yahoo! Groups as well as many others. You can do a browser search on the yahoogroups.com website and or googlegroups.com website.
May I suggest you start of there. It is very helpful to share your experiences as well as read other's experiences who have undergone the same things that you yourself have undergone. I have. And receive support and assistance in your search process.
Also, most adoptees decide to register with www.adoption.com. If there birthfamily is searching for them, in all likelihood they have registered there as well. Just leave a current and update email address. Because it may take time and you don't want to miss the opportunity by not having an active email address if he/she does try to find you.
There are many support groups for adoptees as well as birth mothers, and adoptive parents. More and more adoptive parents are realizing the necessity of knowing and having good communication with their child's first parents. It is no longer taboo. And open adoptive the mainstream today.
Please check at the Yahoo! Groups site and put in adoption in the browser search. Select a group that will assist you in your state or the state of where the adult adoptee was born. You will see how many people are in the same situation as you are in. Not everyone is negative about adoption. Some are, and you have to feel sorry for them.
But I am sure you have lived quite long enough to realize there are people out there that just want to discourage you. Discourage you from wondering, discourage you from searching yourself, discourage you from your getting your information, discourage you from searching and reunion.
Everyone is different. Everyone's path in life is different. You may just find your first family waiting for the past 29 years to find you. Please do not let anyone make you feel that you do not have any rights to search for him/her and find out if they are willing to reunite and or speak with you. He/She is an adult now. You are an adult now. And you and they can make up there own mind. There are millions of adoptees such as yourself searching and seeking a reunion. There are millions of birth mothers that are searching and seeking a reunion.
Get the support that is long overdue with a support group. Register with www.adoption.com, you never know if she/he is desparate to find you. Register with ISRR, International Soundex Reunion Registry, ISRR . com , Index of Search and Reunion Resources. And find out if there is a State run registry were the you were born or if you can register with them.
Again, he/she maybe waiting for you to register. And maybe not. But you never know until you find out yourself. You have a right to find out. I have.