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parents right to force minor to give baby for adoption
my 14 year old doughter is pregnant and wants to keep baby. me and my wife are 110% against this, do we have the right to force her to give this baby up for adaoption or does she being a minor have the right to keep this baby.
She could try to become emaciated for starters. She might run away with the baby.
Couple suggestions:
1) Make her have an abortion
2) Talk with her. Don’t order her to give up the child, convince her, but don’t ORDER her. She is going to give birth, treat her with some respect. That is, treat her as an adult, not a child. Find a couple and introduce them to her. Let her get to know them, help her to change her mind up adoption. Let this couple give her some sob story about how they can’t have children for whatever reason, and they would take good care of the child, etc.
I think you mean Emancipated. Emaciated would mean she would become very thin.
Almost 30 years ago, when I was 17, my mother forced me to give my dauther up for adoption. I never even got to hold her. I have never been the same!!! There has always been a big "hole" in my heart that I have never been able to fill. I have two other children, but I have this empty place in my heart. I obeyed my parents and signed those papers and then closed myself off from them. My father died almost 15 years ago and my mother just a few years ago. Our relationship was never the same. She tried to get close to me, but I just couldn't be close to a person who would make a decision like that for me. A few years after I gave my daughter up for adoption, my brother of 17 years was killed in a car accident. My family was devastated and I believe that is when my mother began to realize the pain that she, by her actions, caused me. To lose a child is the most unbearable pain that I believe you can experience. A few years before she died, my mother tried to ask me about this. She started to ask if I ever thought about her, I became so angry and told her not to ever speak to me about that ever again. It was too late and she couldn't make it better or bring my daughter back...it was pretty much too little too late. I love my mother, but I don't think I will ever find forgiveness for what happened. All I wish is that she could have loved me and my daughter even if it would have been embarrassing or uncomfortable for her.
Every situation is different, but I think the mother of the 14 year old should take some time and put herself in her daughters situation. By putting that baby up for adoption, isn't going to make her disappear in her daughters heart.
My girlfriend fell pregnant in 1999 and we were both very young. My girlfriend was petrified and didn't know what to do. I told her immediatly that whatever her decision might be, abortion was out of the question. After a long debate, WE decided to have the baby. I was going to study photography, but had to put it on hold and look for another job. We got engaged and began our journey toward parenthood. My daughter is now 7 and I also have 2 sons - one is 3 and the youngest is 8 months old. My life only began when I became a father and prosperity followed - I believe because we made the right decision. Don't be too hasty to convince your child to either abort or give her child away, no one can tell you what the outcome will be, but I can tell you this: I wouldn't trade my children for anything
From personal experience if you tell her to put the baby up for adoption and its not her choice she can come to resent you and she might leave. You might lose her and I don't think thats what you want . Talk to her about what she is giving up if she keeps it let her have a few choices. If she feels she was forced she will have guilt and remorse and she can go into depression.
If she's able to make the choice to have sex, then she can make the choice to keep or not keep the baby.
The "child" in this situation probably gave birth a year and a half ago.
Please pay attention to the dates of the original post before you add your post to it. The person asking the question hasn't been back since February of 2006 to read you answers.
my 14 year old doughter is pregnant and wants to keep baby. me and my wife are 110% against this, do we have the right to force her to give this baby up for adaoption or does she being a minor have the right to keep this baby.
your wife cannot control that! it was your daughters choice not hers, your daughter gets too choose anyway, as long as you allow it. your wife has no right to do that. tell your wife your daughter is old enough to make her own decisions, and shes smart so she will make the right one.
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