How would we go about putting our four year old up for adoption?
Asked Apr 1, 2012, 06:22 PM
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Three years ago my husbands ex stopped communication with him:no phone, moved, and had his almost 1 yr. Old daughter with her. We had not seen or heard from her since. About 6 months ago we saw her in a wal-mart. She ended up having all sorts of problems and the child has been living with us for about 4 to 5 months now. We are not able to take care of her and nurture her like we would like to and have discussed adoption... I am not even sure where we would start?
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The mother is now living with a friend, has lost her job, and has admitted to not being able to care for her... I know that not I can put her up for adoption, but her father and her mother can. We just don't know how to go about it, and that probably won't be what we will do. And I will admit that the situation has been very challenging and she has been fighting me tooth and nail, but I do care for her and don't know what more I can do to help her except for love her, and I am still trying when it comes to that. It would have been a lot easier if we would have known her growing up and if my husband would have been able to help in raising her then. We are now trying to get ourselves in order and things are just upside down. She has all sorts of scars over her head, foot, leg and we are finding more often so we are not sure going back to the mother is such a grand idea. The amount on her just do not seem right for a well taken care of child at the age of only four. We are just trying to look at our options. I am sure we will figure things out whether we get much help or not...
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A 4 year old with issues isn't anyone's idea of the perfect child to adopt, though. But if they are serious about it, it's best to do it now before she is unadoptable and spends her life in foster care.
If you CAN do it financially, and just don't want to because the child is not yours and not easy---I urge you to get family counseling instead so this little girl is not uprooted qand left to feel abandoned again
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I know I was thinking that is what we might need to do too. Thank you much...
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OK thanks for the reddie. I told you what you have since confirmed in post #4, you can not put her up for adoption. Maybe next time if you want help put what you put in post #4 in your first post so we can understand the full nature of the situation.
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I put more but it cut off or something that is y the beginning didn't quite make since...but her parents cannot put her up for adoption if they chose to??? That is why I was asking... not for me. When I said we I meant the mother and father and yes I will be there every step of the way for support if they were to go that option, which I don't think we will.
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And I wasn't being rude or anything your answer just didn't help any...
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You said we and I was correcting that thinking, you are not part of this issue. I asked about moms where abouts since she appeared to have custody after they split.
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