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havefaith101 · May 21, 2007, 11:49 AM

My ex-girlfriend and I adopted a child two years ago and since that time she has refused to let me see the child. I have went to court and gotten a court order but she has refused to follow it. She has know accused me of using drugs among other things. She lies consistently. She has taken me to court at least six times for money despite the fact she she receives money from an adoption fund for the child. She has even quite her job. SHe has refused to get the child counseling for his special needs. At this point I just want to terminate my rights and move on. This situtation is making the child even more unstable because of her vengeance against me.

LadyB · May 21, 2007, 11:58 AM

How were you able to adopt in the first place, since few states allow joint adoption by unmarried couples? What "adoption fund" is she receiving money from? Why haven't you taken her to court for failure to follow the court order? Your whole question sound fishy to me!

ETA: I can't answer the question with facts when the whole thing sounds illegal and fraudulant to begin with, or is possibly a hoax question! More detail is needed.

Okay here's the answer. If you are the legal parent, you can give up your rights to visitation, but cannot give up your parental responsibilities for child support etc. So what good would give up your rights do you? You would be better to go to court and fight for your rights and perhaps even get custody for the good of your child.

FLAMEonfire · May 21, 2007, 12:12 PM

It's time to stop letting her run your tail off back and forth going to court on her terms. GET A LAWYER! You have rights too. She can not keep you away from the child. She could go to jail for not following the court's orders. But you really need a lawyer to help with the way to go after her the right way. if this child has health problems and she's not giving it the help it needs, call the department of Child Welfare and let them invesagate. They will not let her abuse the child, and she is abusing it if she isn't getting the child the help it needs. {I'm sorry to keep calling the child IT, but you didn't say if it was a girl or a boy}After you take care of the childs needs, Than if you really really want to just back out and GO AWAY, I'm sure the lawyer would be able to help with your giving up your rights too. Which ever way you go, good Luck.... :confused:

Fr_Chuck · May 21, 2007, 12:21 PM

Well you are not going to like this but TOO BAD, you should have made better choices who you were going to adopt a child with.

You will be paying child support on this child till the child is over 18 to 23. Get used to it. The only way out is for her to havve another partner adopt the child.

You can give up any rights to visit, but not obligation to paying support.

With that said, so she won't let you, get an attorney and take her back to court for contempt, and if she does not again, take her back, till the judge holds her in contempt and fines her every time she does not let you see the child.

I will agree, something does not seem right, about the story

FLAMEonfire · May 22, 2007, 09:50 AM

My ex-girlfriend and I adopted a child two years ago...

Ok There seems to be some question about the Truthfulness of this statement?! Even though it's not our business, can you give us a little information on how the two of you adopted a child without being married? I think that will put people's minds at ease and they can get on with giving you some REAL advise, on the real subject of your notice. Have you thought about what people are saying? Have you decided to contact a Lawyer? That baby needs you! And I for one would like to know if you are going to stick around for awhile, for the child's sake.