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My wife and I adopted a child in a forgein country over 8 yrs ago. We have been experiencing alot of problems with this child from her telling us she hates us, her cursing at us, bad behavior at school and at home. Can we give up our parental rights to her even if she is not a legal resident of the U.S.? My wife has serious health problems and I am currently having several emotional problems due to the problems caused by our child.
adoption is lke having the child, a lifelong commitment. How old was the child when you adopted her ? why is she not a legal resident, you should have taken care of that.
But you will need to find someone to adopt her ( private adoption)
What do you think your child is going through? You adopted her and did not make her a legal citizen? What is up with that? If she has such serious behavioral problems, why haven't you sought some professional guidance? Is she this way only at home, or everywhere she goes? Is her behavior different in school, with friends, etc.?
Have you contacted the agency you used when you adopted her? Or was this a private adoption? You just cannot terminate your parental rights because you feel the need. Call the attorney you used in the adoption and explain what is going on. Maybe a residential placement that specializes in behavioral problems would be an option.
But to turn your back on this child now is selfish. Don't tell me I do not know what it is like either. I do know as the parent and full time caregiver for my son who has severe disabilties ( my adopted son, by the way).
Do right by this child. You are responsible and accountable.
I am not an exspert but i do have 5 kids of my own and 5 step i do sometimes wish i could give all mine back but i can't but sometime you do need a helping hand if i can help let me know in any way
If you adopted her 8 years ago, then how is it that she's not a legal resident of the U.S.? Did you legally adopt her or is she just living with you kind of as a foster child? If it's the latter then you could terminate your parental relationship with her. You'd probably have to contact a consulate from her country of origin. If you did legally adopt her then you are responsible for her, in which case you should seek to get her professional treatment to address her abusive behavior.
It really bothers me that you say your daughter is not a legal citizen. When you adopted her she should have received a new birth certificate from your state's Department of Vital Statistics - showing your and your wife's name. Just like a natural child. Did you illegally "adopt" this child?
Wow you guys should be ashamed of yourselves calling names! But most of what they said is true,Why would your child not be a citizen? After all if you adopted her legally then she should be. I also think that this child is crying out for help and you just want to turn your back on her. Maybe instead of asking how you can get rid of her maybe you should be asking how you can HELP her. Also if she is calling names and saying she hates you and cussing you then where did she learn this?You are the ones who have been with her so has she heard you say these things to her? If you got her when she was a baby then the only person you have to blame is YOU. At the same time though if you are going to treat her bad because of her behavior and not seek help for her then I believe you should give her to someone who will seek the help and give her the love she needs!!
Did It Ever Occur To Anyone That Maybe David Lopez Is Not A Legal American Citizen Either????? Maybe He Is One Of Those Who Crossed The Border Into Our Country Illegally???? That Would Certainly Make Alot Of Sense As To Why He Hasn't Sought The Proper Help For His Own Daughter, Even If She Is Adopted. Maybe He Knows That If He Tries To Do What People Have Suggested...maybe He Fears Deportment For Himself And His Wife.???? I Don't Know If That Is Really The Case Or Not But I Certainly Think There Is Certainly More To The Picture Than What He Is Telling Us. I Do Try To Give Most People The Benefit Of The Doubt...but My Parents Adopted Me And When They Couldn't Deal With My Behavior...instead Of Getting Me The Help That I Needed They Decided To Kick Me Out At Age 13. I Was Then Turned Over To My Uncle Who I Lived With For About 1 Year Before Going To A School For Girls ...and It Was There That I Got The Much Needed Help That My Parents Didn't Know How To Give Me....maybe I Should Revisit That Thought ...they Chose Not To Give Me Would Be More The Right And Honest Answer.
I Am A Single Parent, And I Know That There Are Times That I Think That I Am Not As Good A Parent As I Want Or Need To Be...but There Are Way Too Many Agencies Out There That Can Help Out With Your Child. I Know A Judge In The City Where I Live That Would Tell The Lopez Family Exactly What He Thinks. He Would Tell Them That They Are Far More Responsible For The Care Of This Child Than If They Had Actually Given Birth To Her. The Reason Being Is Because They Signed Their Name On A Legal, Valid, And Binding Document...it Doesn't Matter What Country She Is From...you Live In This Great Country Of The Usa...and David Lopez...you Need To Get Help For You, Your Wife And That Prescious Daughter Of Yours.
The Bible Says, "that Children Are An Heritage From The Lord." You Need To Do Your Job As A Parent And Get Help For All Of You!!!!! And If By Some Chance You Or Your Wife Are Not Legal Citizens Here In The Usa Than Maybe You Need To Talk With An Atty. About Becoming Legal Naturalized Citizens. There Are Plenty Of Hispanic Communities That Have Churches Where They Would Be More Than Glad To Help You With Any Or All Of These Needs. You Can Even Go To A Social Service Agency And They Will Be Glad To Assist You With Those Needs. That Is The Beauty Of America Mr. Lopez....we Help All People From All Walks Of Life No Matter What The Situation Is.
Please Get Help Before You Hurt That Beautiful Child Anymore!!!!!!!!!
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damn did everybody forget about the poor child the parents have to buck up and love her more she is your child nobody elses so just get her psychological help me being a child of adoption it aint easy for us either we dont know yal......... i hated my adoptive parents for a long time because i didn't understand she will understand one day hang in there mr. lopez a change is gonna come............
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