Am I wrong?

You are not wrong.

If they do not want to be apart of your kid's life, then you shouldn't force it as then that will only create problems.

I will agree with Captian,

I will add one thing, sometimes grandparents ( still got those memories of those old grey haired people from my memories) often feel ashamed to ask or afraid to ask.

Do they send any cards, letters or anything?

If not, my suggestion will be the same, don't force something they don't seem to want.

I don't feel you're wrong. While the father has visitation rights (though not necessarily while he's incarcerated), the extended family has little, if any, established rights to visitation with your daughter. Each state varies somewhat on this but no state grants extensive rights to grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc. (unless they are a court-appointed guardian.) Right now, you and your husband have the duty to raise your daughter in the most loving, nuturing and emotionally healthy environment you can provide. From the sound of your post, it doesn't sound like your daughter even knows these relatives very well so certainly nobody's being deprived as a result of her being kept away from them.

If you tried to keep my grandchild from me I would probaly end up making you very unhappy with me. If they want to see the child you should let them, they are family. If they can contact you but don,t, then forget about them.

I don't know if you are wrong or right. As someone else mentioned, the extended family don't have any legal rights to see the child. But I would like to add that you may want to consider if seeing her relatives on her father's side would benefit your daughter. Since she is so little it may not make a difference now, but that may change as she grows up. Allthoug she has another father figure in her life it may still be very important to her as she grows up to have a bond with her father's side of the family. It is after all her blood relatives.
I've had a few friends who grew up without any contact with their dads or anyone on their dad's side and this is something that greatly affected them when they got older. My best friend has told me several times that not knowing anything about her dad has been one of the greatest sorrows of her life and it was something that was especially difficult to deal with when she was in her early teens.

This is really not about the family members, what they want and what their rights are. This is about the child. And the more that loves her the better, don't you think? If you feel that having contact would be something that would benefit your daughter, maybe you could contact your ex's family members and ask them if they are interested in being in her life. Just because your ex is a no good piece of crap (which he of course is if he hasn't cared about his own daughter) doesn't mean that his family is. Of course they could have contacted you, but there may be a reason why they haven't. Of course I don't know the situation and as the mother you know what is best for your child, but I thought I'd give you my input if it would help.

Good luck,

Rocktosh

Do you intend to tell the child when she is older that the man who raised her is not her biological father? She will have a lot of questions about her fathers side of the family. Think about the future before you make a decision. You may save yourself a huge headache down the road. Good luck. There really isn't any right or wrong is there?

I am adopted! But I totally think that you are wrong and you should let your child see at least her dad on jail visiting days! If I was your daughter, I would be wanting to be seeing my dad really bad, and I would want you to take me to see him, but if you didn't take me to see him then I would ask if I could at least see my grandparents!

Just sit your daughter down and tell her what people she is alowd to see

[quote=lovingmama]I had a little girl a couple of years ago with my ex-husband. I am now currently remarried and my husband has taken on a wonderful father role. My daughter

Okay. I am a girl whose dad walked away too. See, I never talk with my dad, but his family are very close to me. But the question is, do you trust the dad? He makes "mistakes" after all. The worst thing a parent could do is not be honest with their kids. Let your girl know what her options are. Ask her if she's happy. Cause I would just leave things the way they are. I mean If you get involved with his family, a lot more drama could happen. Make an ups and downs chart you know?