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im 37 and and adopted and I have stuggled my whole life with being adopted I was put in an abusive adoptive home which made me feel even more unloved than before I mean my birthmom gave me up and then I was put in this abusive home I have had the crap beaten out of me sense I was a child my adoptive mother use to throw me down the stairs it was awful they would say I was bad just so i could get a beaten it was awful I have never felt loved by anybody nobody believed I was being abused this was awful I had to run away from the abuse because no one would help me I am very poor now because I had to get away from the abuse and no help from anybody how do I get past this abuse and find love maybe I cant find love but I wish I knew what it felt like to be loved dont say please seek a counsler I dont have any money do you have anyadvice for this probleml
Allright lets take it here. So you are now 37. How old were you when you were adopted? You say nobody believed you were being abused, but who did you report it to? You say you ran away? At what age?
If you contact your local Lutheran Social Services (for sure this agency, I'm not sure about any others, but I wouldn't be surprised if they have contingincies in place as well) and let them know your situation, they will put you in contact with a counselor specializing in adoption at no cost or on a sliding scale fee.
There is help for you if you want it, but you have to want it.
Check with your local state or county.
You can get counseling even if you don't have any money.
I'm sorry this happened to you.
You are already loved sweetie.
Now that you are no longer a child it's up to you to get the help you need.
You have begun to help yourself simply by posting here and asking for help.
Keep on the path of trying to overcome your past. You will!
i was adopted an in a simular situation as u, tho i was not beaten to the extreme u was, i did get a few punches every now an then but most ov it was verbal abuse. i did the same, ran away from it, i acherly ran away with an older man, old enough to be my dad, it was the first kind ov love i ever received, but i now know that weren't love... it was sick. but now im 24 an moving on, i have a beautiful daughter and to give real love an receive real love from her is amazin, im sure one day u will find love. i also have the man ov my dreams, im happy. just remember, i once felt like u do now, but the is light at the end ov the tunnel, u just have to open your eyes, past is in the past, look to the future.....
i was adopted too. i never met my birthparents. i was abused too. maybe you can read the thing i posted today and help me too? ive been seeing a therepist. that might help you.. i know you said dont say that, but its the best thing for you. im still struggling but it has helped. maybe you can join one of those groups who gives money to the helpless? that way you could have money to get a counsler.
most counties in the US, have couseling available based on income, also many things is a matter of priority, budget get rid of internet, car pool, eat mac and cheese,
Also talk with the pastor or religious leader of your choice
you are not going to like what you read so you have the option of not reading it. If you say you are 37 years old, then it makes me wonder why you are still in the "poor me" mentality mode. You have had ample time in your life to do something with it and bring respect to yourself. I say this becoz I was in a similar situation to you. My parents "sold" me to an orphanage when i was 2 years old... for less than $5... they needed money to pay the rent!! I am now 35 years old and I have never seen them since. Yes I was beaten, yes I was verbally and physically abused, yes I was nearly sold for prostitution, and nearly raped, but do you know what I got out of all that - resilience and self love. Till today I cannot stand anyone feeling sorry for me, so much so i do not tell anyone that I have been adopted. When they do find out (usually a few years into the friendship) they cannot believe how well adjusted i am. I would like it for you to try to change this attitude you have that the world owes you something becoz you were orphaned. No it doesn't, but you owe yourself something - ie self respect. So just pick yourself up and go find or build the home you've always wanted but never got. Sorry for the harsh words, but I think you need to be shocked into action.
im 37 and and adopted and I have stuggled my whole life with being adopted I was put in an abusive adoptive home which made me feel even more unloved than before I mean my birthmom gave me up and then I was put in this abusive home I have had the crap beaten out of me sense I was a child my adoptive mother use to throw me down the stairs it was awful they would say I was bad just so i could get a beaten it was awful I have never felt loved by anybody nobody believed I was being abused this was awful I had to run away from the abuse because no one would help me I am very poor now because I had to get away from the abuse and no help from anybody how do I get past this abuse and find love maybe I cant find love but I wish I knew what it felt like to be loved dont say please seek a counsler I dont have any money do you have anyadvice for this probleml
If you live in the USA you simply dial 911 and report the abuse. A social worker will interview you and the parents. When indicated you would be removed and placed in foster care to hopfully give you a safe place to live. Adoption is then an option. If your over 18 the above won't work because your on your own. If you are on your own and feel that a clear injustice was delivered un-2-u then as a child then you might consider a visit with a attorney to discuss same. Their advice will be very valuable. If no $s for a attorney then contact your local children's protective agency or the State's Department of Health and Human Services. Good luck
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