Hello! I'm wondering if anyone can help me!?* I'm adopted and have recently decided to search for my biological family. Thing is there is a lot of stuff about the adoption i don't know. I've heard i am entitled to view my records, but i have no idea how to go about it. If anyone can offer me any information, i would be very grateful. Thank you!!

ScottGem

The first step is to contact the agency that handled the adoption. They will explain to you what info they can and can't provide.

I'm not sure who told you that you are "entitled" to view the records, but it wasn't accurate. The only thing you may be entitled to is medical information. Its really up to the terms of the adoption as to whether you can get the identity and location info. In most cases adoption records are sealed.

I would also suggest doing a web search for sites that will help adoptive children and birth parents get toegther. The Internet has made it easier when both parties are agreeable to reuniting.

But, you really need to tread carefully here. An adopted child's search for biological parents can be emotionally perilous. Its very possible that that your biological parents are not interested in being found. You should not take this as a personal rejection. It is their issue based on what may have been painful memories for them. Also, you need to make sure you don't alienate your adoptive parents. They are your real parents.

Good Luck

DonjaFox

Thank you for your prompt reply!! I have already found one family member and i know it is not going to be that difficult to find the rest. I already know a bit about the circumstances surrounding my adoption but not everything, that is why i wish to view my file, not for contact details. I really need to know this information until i can make any further dicissions as to what to do next. I do believe it is my right to know, i don't think rushing into any form of contact would be a good idea until i know. Do you know if they can give information in special cases? I wasn't put up for adoption, i was taken away by social services. Thanks again.

Fr_Chuck

In general of course you can ask your adopted parents, they may know.

And I am glad you found one family memeber, yours is not the commom case for adopted people. Normally you will never find them ( that is the commom case for most adopted people) They find thier court records sealed and no access to them. Back in the 70's when I wanted to find my birth parents I found it almost impossible.

ScottGem

The ONLY people who can answer your questions is the Social Services agency that was involved. It is their rules that apply and those rules will vary from agency to agency. As Chuck notes, in the majority of cases, the records are sealed. In fact its only fairly recently (in the last 20 or so years) that adoption agencies have realized they need to provide at least medical histories.

While you may think its your right to know, the agency may feel they biological parents have a greater right to privacy.

shygrneyzs

Speaking from the viewpoint of one who placed a child into adoptive services in 1973...I knew the court records and all records were sealed. No one was to be able to access information. This measure was to protect the child, the biological and the adoptive parents. It was just the common practice. In June of 1998 I wanted to search for "my" child and contacted the family services agency I used in 1973. I was told not much, that they could not tell me anything unless they had the written permission from my child. I asked if she had ever contacted them in regards to finding me and they said they could not even tell me that. But if I wanted to, I could write a letter to the agency, granting my permission to be called - by the agency - in case my daughter would inquire.

So even after all those years, there was still protection in place. As it so happened, my daughter was searching at the same time. Her adopted parents knew very little, other than the name of the agency. But she had gotten ahold of a copy of the original birth certificate - via a chat room on yahoo of all things. She was talking in an adoption room and in that room was someone who worked for the state, in the vital statistics dept. My daughter gave this person the date and place she was born and in a day she had the birth certificate faxed to her. With the birth certificate she knew whose records to ask for with the family services agency.

This all turned out for good. It could have easily turned the other way. She met both myself and her father, our families, and some of the extended family. But she never did receive permission from the agency to view the contents of any files. I do not know how that would have helped her, unless she would have used that information to compare to what both her biological father and I told her happened in our relationship.

Rachel16

I am in a similiar situation. My father was adopted, and he just recently died. I am looking for my biological grandparents. Alot of sites want money for the searches you do, and I'm not going to do that. But mabey you could find a site where all the info you have to know is about yourself or your adoptive parents. That might help. Try adoption records search, or find my biological parents.
Rachel

FeelSoNumbZombie

Please do not listen to any negative people in this world. Especially being an adoptee, finding your birth family, or the what if's.
You are an adult. Your birth mother and father are adults. He/she maybe searching for you. And it is up to you and your belief system to decided what is best for you and your first family and to search for him/her. There have been many happy reunion's. Don't let anyone tell you differently.
There is an adoptee support group: Yahoo! Groups as well as many others. You can do a browser search on the yahoogroups.com website and or googlegroups.com website.
May I suggest you start of there. It is very helpful to share your experiences as well as read other's experiences who have undergone the same things that you yourself have undergone. I have. And receive support and assistance in your search process.
Also, most adoptees decide to register with Adoption.com - Information on International, Domestic, Child & Agency Adoptions, Stories, Laws -. If there birthfamily is searching for them, in all likelihood they have registered there as well. Just leave a current and update email address. Because it may take time and you don't want to miss the opportunity by not having an active email address if he/she does try to find you.
There are many support groups for adoptees as well as birth mothers, and adoptive parents. More and more adoptive parents are realizing the necessity of knowing and having good communication with their child's first parents. It is no longer taboo. And open adoptive the mainstream today.
Please check at the Yahoo! Groups site and put in adoption in the browser search. Select a group that will assist you in your state or the state of where the adult adoptee was born. You will see how many people are in the same situation as you are in. Not everyone is negative about adoption. Some are, and you have to feel sorry for them.
But I am sure you have lived quite long enough to realize there are people out there that just want to discourage you. Discourage you from wondering, discourage you from searching yourself, discourage you from your getting your information, discourage you from searching and reunion.
Everyone is different. Everyone's path in life is different. You may just find your first family waiting for the past 29 years to find you. Please do not let anyone make you feel that you do not have any rights to search for him/her and find out if they are willing to reunite and or speak with you. He/She is an adult now. You are an adult now. And you and they can make up there own mind. There are millions of adoptees such as yourself searching and seeking a reunion. There are millions of birth mothers that are searching and seeking a reunion.
Get the support that is long overdue with a support group. Register with Adoption.com - Information on International, Domestic, Child & Agency Adoptions, Stories, Laws -, you never know if she/he is desparate to find you. Register with ISRR, International Soundex Reunion Registry, ISRR . com , Index of Search and Reunion Resources. And find out if there is a State run registry were the you were born or if you can register with them.
Again, he/she maybe waiting for you to register. And maybe not. But you never know until you find out yourself. You have a right to find out. I have.