text messaging

mebram · #1 Aug 17, 2006, 03:22 PM

I believe my wife is addicted to text messaging. Before she would leave her cell phone lying around the house, just recently she's had her phone on her at all times, she will even sleep with it. We are unable to have a conversation because she is too concerned with the latest message she just received. I get frustrated whenever she's texting, does she have a problem or am I over reacting. According to our cell phone bill she averages about 90 text messages a day.

CaptainForest · Aug 17, 2006, 05:28 PM

It does sound like she has a problem from the way you worded it.

However, there are some questions that should be clarified

These 90 text messages, are they all personal? Or are they work related?

valinors_sorrow · Aug 17, 2006, 05:52 PM

It is possible to be addicted to pagers, cell phones or computers and other technology for how "plugged in" they make people feel. Like the Captain, I too wonder who is at the other end of the text messages and if there isn't a bigger underlying explanation. Can you elaborate on that?

phillysteakandcheese · Aug 17, 2006, 10:59 PM

I think you need to have an open and honest conversation on how her constant texting makes you feel.

Whether it is for work or personal, it's clearly taking a toll on you.

I would flat out ask her what's going on with 90+ messages a day and then watch her reaction.

Amythest · Aug 18, 2006, 01:56 AM

I hope you have flat rate texting.....
my sis texts alot, i've seen her texts so I can see how it can add up so quickly. so many of them are short quick replies. I do agree with the philly if it is bothering you that bad, tell her in a non controlling way that it is bothering you.
point out you love her and it makes you sad that you can't spend real time with her because she is constantly texting. IF it is for work. I can't help you out there. If you do have a flat rate texting plan then maybe she just views it as simply getting your moneys worth.
also maybe it's the new excitement of it, maybe it will eventually get old and she will grow tired of it. but whatever you decide definatly talk with her in the least offensive way as possible. good luck.

talaniman · Aug 18, 2006, 05:50 AM

You guys need to sit and talk about this and express your feelings honestly, no need for a big argument or ultimatums. Just get the feelings out where you both understand where the other is coming from.

mebram · Aug 18, 2006, 09:17 AM

thanks for the advice, she does have a text plan after we paid a $200 cellphone bill one month, she's primarily texting a female coworker but it is not work related, they are simply quick replies to there own little jokes. My wife calls it her hobby and she thinks it's fine because her messages are included in the plan, but she's not realizing that it is causing somewhat of a problem between us.

talaniman · Aug 18, 2006, 09:52 AM

You have an obligation to express yourself honestly, and respectfully. As you say she is unaware of how you feel because she is playing with her new toy. I'm sure you can understand that. Be patient with her.

Here_To_Help- Jon · Aug 18, 2006, 10:20 AM

I think the point is being missed....this isnt about how many txt messages or what plan she is on - its about the content of the text messages and the amount of time being consumed by them. If it causing a problem for you - then (by default) it is a problem for both of you and you need to tell her.



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