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This is hard for me here, and has been in the past when I have gotten help before. But whatever I do I cannot seem to get away from this addiction. My problem is I've had an eating disorder for almost 3 years now. It started with anorexia and developed into bulimia/binge eating. I no longer have any problems with anorexia, since I can't seem to make myself stop eating. Some days I'm fine (on days I am terribly busy and can't stop to eat) but when I am home all I do is eat. My husband doesn't notice, and I can't see how he doesn't. He knows about the problem, I have confided in him on several occasions, and he has tried to help me before...now thinking that he has eliminated the problem and that I am fine. In his head, this should be a fix right away. There shouldnt be a reason why I shouldnt be able to stop cold turkey. But my issue is that we need food on a daily basis. So it's not like I can isolate myself from my addiction 100%.
I have been seeing a counselor. But she hasn't been helping me. What she is trying to do is find my inner child and figure out what it's trying to tell me. She tells me to continue on with the bulimia until my body tells me it no longer needs it. But this is harming me. I can't live my life any more. I don't know how to be around people without wanting to leave so I can eat and then make myself sick.
No matter what I do I find myself back in the cycle. I have gone to Over eaters Anonymous Classes, and all I do is feel ashamed. I have told very close friends about it, but they listen rather than give advice.
I need advice on what to do so I can stop. Little steps so I can start to control what I am doing. Because obviously I can't isolate myself from food completely. Can anyone tell me anything? I know this is a big one, but I am at my end. I have no other options. And as each day goes on, I no longer see a point to being here rather than eating and purging. And what kind of life is that.
Please help.
]Can anyone give me any advice on what they think could help?
I am trying so hard to overcome this addiciton that I have really watching what i am eating.
Lately I have not been eating lunch so I can avoid overeating at that time all together.
I also try to watch and eat somethign healthy for dinner.
Since I am vegetarian that isn't generally a problem.
My purpose is not to loose weight or maintain weight, but to become healthy and let my body recover. [[UNQUOTE]]
If you were to evaluate the statements above you will be able to see where you have made choices.
Humans find it very hard to accept that they are resonsible for their own choices.
The body is not designed to be addicted to anything. Addiction is a fabricated term use to decribe a falsehood.
The body has mechanisms that react to adverse and dangerous things done to its functioning i.e. alcohol abusers and long term liver damage, ciggarete smokers and cancerous cell formation, drug users and psychosis.
This damage occurs when we make the decision of what we input into it.
It is not a seperate entity and the only will power the body is programmed to do is to survive.
The control over our bopdies comes from our MINDS our DECISIONS and our SELF CONTROL.
You do not have "Bulimia" and your above statements have clearly identified your ability to make controlled choices. You are making yourself throw up because of an area in your life that you are not content. Only this content is temporary and making it worse.
Wow, perhaps you should refrain from offering advice to someone with an addiction when you do not believe or understand that addictions exist. I find your statements extremely insulting.
Ladybug, the post about exercise and diet was not meant to suggest that I use those tools to watch my weight. I use those tools to maintain a positive body image and a healthy attitude. Best of luck to you!
I want to excersise, I feel almost as if I should to get better. But at this point i am viewing excersise more as a trading space for the addcition. In the past I have stopped purging for a couple of weeks but overdone diet pills and the gym immensly. To the point where I was loosing more weight doing it that way than the purging. But it never lasted, thank god.
Right now, I am enlisted in a yoga class once a week for 10 weeks, but due to work havent been able to make it for the past 2 sessions. Mostly cause I would be missing the first 10 minutes of the class, which stressed me out, and puts me in a bad state of mind. I have not had any motivaition for the gym simply because I havent had enough energy.
I am trying so hard to overcome this addiciton that I have really watching what i am eating. generally i tend to overeat during lunch and then again once i am home from work, since my husband comes home 2 hours after i do. Lately I have not been eating lunch so I can avoid overeating at that time all together. But it has relaly been takign a toll on my energy. I also try to watch and eat somethign healthy for dinner. Since I am vegetarian that isn't generally a problem. It was the snacking that became an issue for me. I would just keep hunting for food.
However I have noticed that by limiting the times I let myself eat that my appetite has become smaller and I become nauseous whenever I do eat. Is this because I am simply replacing one addiction with another bad habbit? I do not want to fall into a different cycle. My purpose is not to loose weight or maintain weight, but to become healthy and let my body recover. I am simply trying to avoid the situations in which I tend to overeat.
Can anyone give me any advice on what they think could help?
You need to be eating three meals a day - breakfast is really important because it gives you energy for the day and fortifies you so that you don't overeat the other meals.
I've been in your position, and eating a good breakfast was one of the ways which really helped me overcome the binge/purge cycle.
Try eating your lunch with others and take your lunch with you rather than buying it so that you can regulate what you eat. Focus on the food that you're eating and really taste it so that you brain and body understand that you are eating something and enjoying it
Are you able to go to the gym when your husband is not home after work, and then prepare the meal together?
Eating healthy is really important, but so also is eating foods which sustain you. If your body does not feel sustained your mind will want to go on a binge again.
The other thing is, don't deny yourself snacks - again your brain will be urging you to eat, eat, eat if you do. Allow yourself snacks but make sure it's a really fresh, juicy apple and focus on the TASTE rather than gobbling it down, make sure that you are eating things that taste really good so that the receptors in your brain will be satisfied.
Wow, perhaps you should refrain from offering advice to someone with an addiction when you do not believe or understand that addictions exist. I find your statements extremely insulting.
Your decision to be offended can not be changed by anyone. You are offended at someone elses opinion and you can not hold any one responsible for your feelings but yourself and you can't change peoples opinions to satisfy your emotions.
You can not exist in this world and ask people to refrain from expressing their reality as fact.
The truth hits us hard as humans doesnt it.
What is a moral judgement?
Bulimia does not exist. Self control and mind sets do.
You can't blame anything for your own actions - that is not moral or judgement its fact.
You have been given a great amount of excellent advice.
Let me ask you ,have you ever done any research about your disease?
What part of what you learned made you say.. that is me!
My dear,its hurts me to think of your pain and how lost you feel.
There must be someone in your life who can help you.
Please reach out, it is your only hope.
Little steps are the road to getting better.
Your husband loves you and he tries to understand and thats a great thing.
People who don't get this problem...really don't get it.
Noble, it is true that I cannot change your opinion and your opinion does offend me. What offends me more however, is that your argument is preposterous because you are simply "choosing" to ignore the scientific research surrounding addiction with pseudo-scientific new-age beliefs. I would point out to you that just because you will something to be true does not make it so. Additionally, you assume that by acknowledging addiction, a person gives up all control of their situation. This is not true. By understanding addiction, a person is better able to understand and overcome their situation.
Noble, it is true that I cannot change your opinion and your opinion does offend me. What offends me more however, is that your argument is preposterous because you are simply "choosing" to ignore the scientific research surrounding addiction with pseudo-scientific new-age beliefs. I would point out to you that just because you will something to be true does not make it so. Additionally, you assume that by acknowledging addiction, a person gives up all control of their situation. This is not true. By understanding addiction, a person is better able to understand and overcome their situation.
This posturing isn't helping the poster.
Clearly there is an area of her life where she is not content. What other posters are trying to do is provide PRACTICAL advice so she can get the bulimia under control, and then hopefully begin to understand and heal.
I don't have an answer because I need answers myself. I so want to tell my husband (of 3 months) about my problem. Telling him might answer some of his questions- mood swings, getting a shower twice a day, usually after we eat, why I eat much at dinner, workout so much,... I've been doing this for
over 10 years. I hate it... I'm always tired... I just don't know HOW to tell him. He's understanding and extremely supportive... I know that he would do anything to help... How did u tell your husband ?
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