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SaveIceland101 · Jul 11, 2008, 05:57 PM

Does this make me a pervert? I´m really ashamed of myself, if I see a picture of a girl, that´s not wearing anything, I will think it´s really nasty. But sometimes I get really arused by it. Could this be Puberty? I also a have a foot fitish. Does this make me a bad person? I have never had sex before, I don't have a girl friend yet, I´m afraid to get one, they might find out. I like girls a lot. But I would never ask them for sex, I know that is wrong and sick. I´m afraid I´m a really bad person, because of this. Is this normal for a teenager? Will this effect my life forever? Please help, this is not a joke.

amwied · Jul 11, 2008, 06:09 PM

To be honest, I have gone through exactly what you have gone through, just because you get aroused by looking at a picture of a naked girl, doesn't mean you're a pervert, and yes it means puberty... if and when you ever hear someone say stop thinking with your head in your pants and think with the one on your, shoulders is because you are going through puberty and all guys go through it. It is nothing to be ashamed of, it may scare you now, and just because you think about sex, doesn't mean your different from any other guy in the world, because we all do. Also, I personally don't have a foot fetish, but some people like and are attracted to different things. If you are worried about having a girlfriend because you might be a bad person or nasty because of your puberty, you are wrong. Girls are going through puberty right along with you, and they have their own attractions, and weird feelings as you have right now. Believe me just because you looked at some porn and are having these things happening to you, doesn't mean your life will be ruined, and yes this is normal, because your body is now thinking with both heads and not just one... just make sure to keep control of the one down under, if you don't want to turn your life into a complete drama series of complications with or without relationships

N0help4u · Jul 11, 2008, 06:10 PM

Looking at porn is rather natural for guys, but if you read through some of the posts on here it seems like when some guys let themselves get too absorbed in it it seems to have a negative on their sexual relations with their girl.
Set limits and try not to go beyond them to the point you are a pervert. Focus on the more prevalent things in your life and enjoy that. Like the mistake these guys make is they are so absorbed in porn when they have the real deal sitting right waiting for them.

missingpieces · Oct 13, 2008, 05:17 PM

Originally Posted by N0help4u

Looking at porn is rather natural for guys, but if you read through some of the posts on here it seems like when some guys let themselves get too absorbed in it it seems to have a negative on their sexual relations with their girl.
Set limits and try not to go beyond them to the point you are a pervert. Focus on the more prevalent things in your life and enjoy that. Like the mistake these guys make is they are so absorbed in porn when they have the real deal sitting right waiting for them.

I totally agree, set your limits so there aren't problems in the future. And there is one really important thing I need to tell you:

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH LOOKING AT PORN!!

Have fun, you're a young boy and you are starting to get curious. This in no way makes you a bad person, it makes you a normal person! Girls look at porn too, if you look around, especially at magazines like cosmo and stuff, plenty of girls like watching porn too. Don't worry about girls finding out, I'm sure all your guy friends will soon discover the wide world of porn, if they have not already. And fetishes are huge, feet being one of the big ones, so you are not alone.

There is nothing wrong with you, you are not a bad person.

(I just would like to add that I grew up surrounded by boys- brothers and cousins- so believe me, there is nothing abnormal about what you are going through. Just don't over do it :) )

spyderglass · Oct 14, 2008, 01:09 AM

Hey, It's normal to be curious at your age, especially about sex and girls. That doesn't make you a bad person. I've dated guys that had watched porn before. I watched porn a couple of times when I was a teenager myself (and I'm a woman). I agree with the others about not over doing it though, most porn isn't really how things are in reality.

hannah_nicole · Oct 16, 2008, 02:53 PM

This is normal. She'll be right mate! Stress less.

RustyFairmount · Oct 18, 2008, 07:40 PM

You're 14 years old! Do you really think you should be taking advice from a bunch of strangers on the Internet?

I might say porn is good; I could be wrong. I might say porn is bad; I could be wrong.

Talk to your parents about sex. Ask them about porn; if they look at it, or not. Ask them when they had sex. How they decided it was right. Only your parents can help counsel you on this. Accepting sexual advice from strangers is reckless. Please talk to your parents. Please.

SSE08 · Oct 18, 2008, 07:51 PM

Don't be ashamed! My boyfried told me that he looked at porn when he was a kid, and I did too just because I was curious. Porn is completely natural to look at! One day you might get with a girl that enjoys porn too!

If it was so wrong, wouldn't it be illegal? Its not! But I think you need to be 18 to look at it... ;)

missingpieces · Oct 21, 2008, 12:53 AM

Originally Posted by RustyFairmount

You're 14 years old! Do you really think you should be taking advice from a bunch of strangers on the Internet?

I might say porn is good; I could be wrong. I might say porn is bad; I could be wrong.

Talk to your parents about sex. Ask them about porn; if they look at it, or not. Ask them when they had sex. How they decided it was right. Only your parents can help counsel you on this. Accepting sexual advice from strangers is reckless. Please talk to your parents. Please.

All kinds of problems with this.

First off, this is an open space where anyone can ask questions, it's fine for him to do so!

Second, ask his parents about porn? Maybe his dad if he has a "cool" dad but I doubt most kids are taking this kind of information straight to mom and/or dad. And parents are not always the best counsel on this kind of stuff, especially if you feel they are not going to be open minded with you. Sadly, most parents rely on teachers and peers to help their kids with this kind of stuff. The way you go about saying this is by pleading with him, it makes me curious why?

RustyFairmount · Oct 21, 2008, 06:05 PM

Originally Posted by missingpieces

All kinds of problems with this.

First off, this is an open space where anyone can ask questions, it's fine for him to do so!

Second, ask his parents about porn? Maybe his dad if he has a "cool" dad but I doubt most kids are taking this kind of information straight to mom and/or dad. And parents are not always the best counsel on this kind of stuff, especially if you feel they are not going to be open minded with you. Sadly, most parents rely on teachers and peers to help their kids with this kind of stuff. The way you go about saying this is by pleading with him, it makes me curious why?

Open space or not, minors asking adult strangers for sexual advice is reckless. Adults giving sexual advice to minors may also be illegal (depending on the nature of the response). Children are routinely victimized by predators on the internet. I am pleading because I don't want to read another news story of a child who was hurt this way.

If you put the original question in context of a neighbor's kid asking you in person, and you were to take the child into your house and explain that porn is good. It's moral. There's nothing wrong with it. Etc. How long do you think it would take for that family to have you arrested??