My Bf of 5 years gets out or rehab soon due to a meth addiction he has had for years. He asked me to move with him due to his reputation here and drugs. We have a daughter together, Im still unsure if i should make such a big commitment, if he will be able to stay sober. My parents also help me get a wonderful house, so if i move i loose the house.If we move he will have no connects like he did here, and that would be the whole point of moving, because according to him its meth central here where we currently live.I guess my question is do meth addicts ever fully recover? And if they have no connects is it possible to get connects again?

excon

Hello Cristy:

(1) Sure they do. (2) Sure it is.

excon

KBC

Running from an addiction isn't facing the problem,it's avoiding it all together(been there,done that),that's called a geographical cure,,problem is,all your problems are still your problems,they don't leave just because you left a location.

If you think it would be better to stay for the welfare of the child and you,stay,put your foot down and tell him that he needs to face this head on.

I know of many who recover in their 'old haunts',changing those who they used to hang around with,changing the routines which dragged them back to those haunts,not doing the things which make it so they play in those old haunts,,that's where growth begins and recovery blooms.

rockie100

Hi Cristy, Look over your last couple threads on this subject... There is some good food for thought.
No telling if he will lick this struggle. I hope for the best for him.
Try to think of the things in your life that you do have some control over. You are a Mom. That is the most important job you will ever have... your greatest gift.

jmjoseph

Yes, addicts do recover. I am one, and I am in successful recovery. However, yes it is the right thing to move away from the drugs. He will need to change every aspect of his life that had to do with him using. They( rehab) tell you to change "playmates, playgrounds,..."

He will need to go to either Alcoholics Anonymous, or Narcotics Anonymous, religously as to stay clean. It is simply the best way to stay clean.

You need to go to this group:Nar-Anon Home

It is Nar-Anon, a support group for the family members of addicts. It will save your sanity.

Both of you will have your work cut out for you, but it can, and does, work.

Two thirds of the people that go through rehab will relapse. You must WORK to stay clean.

Any reputable counselor, or clinic, will tell you that he will need to get into a 12 step program like NA. Don't let him tell you otherwise.

An addiction is for life. You don't just get clean and that's it. It is a lifelong journey.

You need to understand that the "geographical cure" is not the answer to his problem. But he stands a better chance of staying clean if he doesn't have meth knocking on his door all day.

Good luck to you. Let us know how things are going.