Meth. is not something I've ever experimented with. I see the effects it has on people but none of those through close friendships. I suspect my boyfriend is using something I think meth. We have been together 5 years and have 2 kids. He has always been a bit moody and sleep always been an issue. I've even suspected a possible bi-polar disorder. But recently he's not eating, sleeping, agitated easily, and seems to always be in a hurry and talks very quickly. I now suspect something else is going on. How can one tell if their parter is a user?? Am I at risk by sleeping with him or being intimate with him, such as chemicals being passed through semen? Someone please help me.
He has to be tested for meth use and I can tell you, super hard to get out the system, excruciating pain and irritation so that some want to commit suicide to get rid of the 'bugs under their skin'. I cant candycoat what I have been told by meth users. The ones that have lived, that is. No you cant get anything from him by being intimiate with him. Just feel glad you are not a user and a Mom. Feel sorry for him and get him help if you really think he is a user.
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How do you suspect him of using this drug? Does he seclude himself in the house and you smell something burning? Or do you suspect him of taking pills? Just his moodyness, not sleeping, agitation, etc to me are not enough to warrant him on meth. How long has he been exhibiting any signs to you? What about money disappearing? Does he stay out with friends for days on end, etc.? He could have a bipolar condition and he is just cycling - sometimes faster on some days.
I was a meth user for almost 8 years. The most noticeable signs of meth use are weight loss, not being able to talk to people or slurred speech, glossy eyes, never wanting to be around people, always wanting to be alone, or on the go. The only real way to catch something with him is if he has multiple partners, which a lot of the times is an effect it has on people. The best thing I would tell you to do is to sit down and talk with him. Don't overwhelm him with questions or accuse him, just let him know that you see changes in him and you are there to help him when he is ready. Only the user can say when they are ready. I wish you lots of luck.
No you cant get anything from him by being intimiate with him.
Just wanted to say something about this point that I think is very important.....if he is using the drug intravenously, she is at a major risk of disease by sleeping with him. I see what she was asking, like does it (the meth itself, or some kind of chemical) come out in his body fluids. But she should be aware that lots of meth users are IV users and the risk for Hepatitis and AIDS is extremely high among IV drug users.
sodium bicarbonate is a chemical that can be ingested, but it can also lead to poisoning in taken improperly... not sure a meth user is likely of the right mind to avoid the potential convulsions, muscle weakness, and explosive diarrhea that can come from bicarb poisoning
Drug use is a very personal thing..... I can't imagine him doing this by himself and you not knowing.... You must know some of his friends, or acquaintances... You must know where he goes, and what he does...
If you don't know that stuff, you don't have much of a relationship to begin with.
Frankly, it doesn't sound like a drug problem to me.
If he was using IV to introduce meth into his sytem, then she would certainly know about. He would have needle marks. I do agree about the STDs but I got the impression he isnt a run about sort of person and other then the problems has a good relationship. Does not sound like someone who sleeps around shooting up meth.
tickle is right on. I might add, that if he's smoking it, his breath would smell like chemicals and his tongue would be coated. He wouldn't just have trouble sleeping. He wouldn't even get in bed. He'd be up days at a time, tweaking around, doing things........
Really..... Here's a meth joke. It should give you a clue: How can you tell who's a tweaker in the grocery store??? He's the one with his cart upside down fixing a wheel.