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Over the past year or so I've found myself having at least one drink a day. I enjoyed having a glass of wine or a beer with dinner or later on in the evening. Well, slowly, the number of drinks have increased and I can't seem to stop. I have one drink, and it feels so good to have that warm feeling that I find myself reaching for another ... and another. I don't usually get super drunk, but I like to have that buzzed feeling.
I'm afraid now, though, because I've tried to cut down. If there's any alcohol in the house (there almost always is), I will drink it even though I promise myself to take a break. Then I will promise myself just to have one drink, only to have more. I've taken the 'do you think you're an alcoholic' tests on the internet and failed. I'm afraid of what this could be doing to my body. I'm afraid of it getting worse. I just want some tips or ideas on how to stop or control my drinking.
take control of your life and join Alcoholics Anonymous. You are jeopardizing your health. You could be destroying your liver and you only have one of them, you could have heart disease, diabetes and if you smoke, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (known quite commonly these days as COPD). It will get worse, no doubt about it, but why tell us, tell someone you love who needs you around for the next few years. Do you have children? Okay, tell one of them.
YOU CANT CONTROL, YOU CAN ONLY STOP AND NEVER HAVE ANOTHER DRINK AS LONG AS YOU LIVE.
take control of your life and join Alcoholics Anonymous. You are jeopardizing your health. You could be destroying your liver and you only have one of them, you could have heart disease, diabetes and if you smoke, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (known quite commonly these days as COPD). It will get worse, no doubt about it, but why tell us, tell someone you love who needs you around for the next few years. Do you have children? Okay, tell one of them.
YOU CANT CONTROL, YOU CAN ONLY STOP AND NEVER HAVE ANOTHER DRINK AS LONG AS YOU LIVE.
Thanks for your reply. I don't smoke, am 39 years old, and in good physical condition. Is there any way of helping myself without going to AA? I know that may seem dumb to you but I'm a private person and I guess I'm too embarrassed to go to an AA meeting. My kids are young ... too young to help me. I think my husband is in denial because I've spoken to him before about my fears of drinking too much alcohol and he continues to bring it home. He seems to be able to control how much he drinks and I guess he doesn't want to stop drinking all together because of my 'problem'.
One of you has to take the initiative. I have lived with this problem and i know it has to be conquered. NO LIQUOR IN THE HOUSE ABSOLUTELY.
Make a call to your local chapter, or not so local chapter; it is as it says, anonymous and you will meet people in varying degrees of your problem and hear how they are dealing with it with the help of experts. Please try for your family's sake.
First it is a matter of really wanting to. First get all of it out of the house. PERIOD, get rid of it. Next if you can't stop on your own, got o AAA, go to professional couseling anything you can do.
I'm on a different page...
You've done the more difficult part: You've acknowledged to yourself your concerned, and perhaps as equally important, you've "confessed' to us.
From here, it's as up to YOU as anything. Joining a group will help...if you go. Kinda like joining a gym and not going.
I do wish your husband was more understanding. I didn't realize my problem until I saw how my wife, and my life, was being affected by it.
That being said, you will be confronted with this kind of temptation your entire life. It's up to you to determine how strong you and your will are, as opposed to how strong YOU feel the bottle pulls.
We are all capable of tremendous things. You are of free will, or you wouldn't have written the words you've put here. Like I said, you've seen the difference.
Now, become the strength that is within you. I'll be here.
Thank you all so much for your input - it really means a lot to me. I know that I keep trying to deny that I have a problem with alcohol, but it's getter hard to ignore. I've heard a lot of the 'rock bottom' stories and I don't want to go down that road before I clean up my act.
I'm going to have another talk with my husband and I will personally remove all the alcohol from the house myself. I hope that will be enough to keep me away from drinking. If that fails, I'll take your advice and go to AA and see what they have to offer.
It's sorta funny ... I had a boyfriend in my early 20's that was an alcoholic and I totally didn't 'get' it - how could someone want to drink so much? Booze just made me sleepy at that point in my life and so I didn't understand how a person could become addicted to it. My Dad is an alcoholic and some call it a disease ... maybe it is, I don't know. Thanks again.
I did it. I spoke to my husband this morning and told him that I'm getting rid of all the booze in the house. He looked at me sorta funny and asked what for? What for? Yesterday I started the day with 2 beer. Then ended the night with the 1/2 bottle of wine and another beer. Talk about head in the sand!
So officially, it's Day 1. Wish me luck. I can do this.
Yes you can. The cool thing about AA, is that you have a sponsor who you can call when you're feeling like one sip wouldn't hurt. The anonymous thing works too. If you can do it by yourself, then go for it. But, there's help available if you can't. You don't need to be soooo strong.
G -- I married into a family of alcoholics (they hid it well unfortunately........), so you have my best wishes and prayers for success as you head toward sobriety. I strongly encourage you to go to AA and stick with them. You will make many friends and have a strong support system. Let us here be on your team too.
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