How do I get my husband into rehab for his addiction?

Elaine9876 · #1 Jun 8, 2009, 07:56 PM

I want my husband to get some kind of help for his crack addiction. It has been going on for way to long-virtually every day. He claims he wants help and maybe he does who knows. All I know is that I want him to get help, but there are so many different rehabs and facilities, I don't know where to go or if I can even afford it with no insurance. How do I get my husband to stop smoking crack?

doesntwantit26 · Jun 9, 2009, 09:06 AM

basically crack is not physically addicting like opiates or benzos so a detox is really not really however i will tell you this you r just wasting ur time if he doesn't want to stop.and alot of times addicts just tell there family members they want help to appease them. but if he's serious a regular 28 day rehab program followed by outpatient services will help. but remember none of that is a cure it is just there for support and ultimately he will have to want to stop and do it himself .

ironclad04 · Jun 10, 2009, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by doesntwantit26

basically crack is not physically addicting like opiates or benzos so a detox is really not really however i will tell you this you r just wasting ur time if he doesn't want to stop.and alot of times addicts just tell there family members they want help to appease them. but if he's serious a regular 28 day rehab program followed by outpatient services will help. but remember none of that is a cure it is just there for support and ultimately he will have to want to stop and do it himself .

In other words its his chioce to take the offer to help himself??? hes probably a nice guy im sure, but his addiction to me is not an addiction, it was a chioce! he mad a hole for himself risking everything thats close to him!!! but as u can only be there to support him, and lead him the right way i guess! i used to be an addict myself, i know what its like! and now that i have a child, i have something to live for!!! I wish u guys luck!

Elaine9876 · Jun 13, 2009, 07:35 PM

Thanks, for the advice, we already have children together and right now they are really to young to know whats "really" going on, but I tell them lies so they want know where he is at or why he isn't at home at night when they go to sleep. I just think that he is wasting his life! And mine to in a way! Part of me wants to there for him and I know what a good person he is (when he's not on drugs) but some times I feel like the bad days out number the good days alot. Sometimes he does really good and it seems like he's finally going to stop all together and then all of a sudden it's over and he's out spending all the money that we have. How do I support him and lead him the right way when I don't even know how to help. I have never done drugs and I have know idea what he feels or why he want stop?

Gemini54 · Jun 15, 2009, 03:07 AM

Why don't you speak to your doctor and get his/her advice about how to approach it.
Take your husband with you - drag him along if you have to.

Tell him it's dangerous for his health and for his mental well-being. Tell him that he has to do it for the children and to get his life back.

jmjoseph · Jul 17, 2009, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by doesntwantit26

basically crack is not physically addicting like opiates or benzos so a detox is really not really however i will tell you this you r just wasting ur time if he doesn't want to stop.and alot of times addicts just tell there family members they want help to appease them. but if he's serious a regular 28 day rehab program followed by outpatient services will help. but remember none of that is a cure it is just there for support and ultimately he will have to want to stop and do it himself .

I'm not going to give you ANOTHER reddie, but dude , DO NOT answer questions about something that you have no idea what you are talking about. Crack cocaine is one of the most addictive drugs there is. People lie, steal, cheat, beg, prostitute themselves for more crack. Do you think they are doing it for fun? You couldn't be more wrong.

And crack is NOT a deritive of opium like J_9 stated. Is comes from cocaine, NOT the opium poppy.

jmjoseph · Jul 18, 2009, 08:10 AM

Your husband claims he needs help, well talk to him about going to detox and rehab first then get into a 12 step program like AA or NA. You see, I am an addict/alcoholic myself, in full recovery. The way I got clean, and the way my wife regained sanity was through this program:

Nar-Anon Family Groups
This link IS FOR YOU, it's a support group for family members. It's free, anonymous, and worldwide. Please go and give it a chance, it will change your life. There's a meeting near you this week, maybe tonight.

Chances are, he really does want to get help. At that stage, it's not that an addict WANTS to use it's that they HAVE to use. I got hooked on painkillers when I started having back pain. I had another surgery Jan. 09, and had the doctor ween me off of the pain pills. I am still experiencing severe pain from time to time, BUT I know that I can't take them responsibly so I don't . He's an addict, so don't let him jump to another substance, like alcohol, or pills, or weed. Total abstinence is the key. Tell him you want your husband back. I know he's sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. GOD bless you on this journey. It's not going to be easy. Get him into detox first.

jmjoseph · Jul 18, 2009, 08:16 AM

And yes, there are programs that are affordable. Some are based on your income. The most important thing is to go. If he says you two can't afford it, tell him he can afford the drugs just fine.



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