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ok this isnt so much about addiction but the fear of a close friend of mine getting addicted (more then a friend actually... long story and we may be going out) to cocain and or E. it started like 2 days ago she told me she wants to do coke which scares me allot ive trayed to explain to her not to do it why and all the reasons she shouldnt shes very depressed and shes going through allot right now and i know shell like it to much it will be an excape from everything shes been smoking weed allot lately because of this im tariffed shes going to get addicted espesily on the E. she says she just wants to "try it" but know one just tryes especily ecstacy i told her my story i told her that that was all i wanted to do and im not even depressed basically i told her that after i did it once acutely as i was on it that first time i was already planning my next roll i dont know how to get her not to do it. she promised me she wouldnt but its not like its that hard for her to break that promise infect im convinced she will.. now she might also just be doing this for attention. she says shes wants to do it on saturday which by coincidence falls on the same day im supposed to play pool with a few pul including one of her friends that she thinks i like shes extremely jealous. now im not shur what i should do if i cant stop her. i have thought of a few options they include being there when she does it as a "sober sitter". asking her out on the day that she wants to do it so she cant do it but she might say no.. i dont know i need impute on this im certain shes going to get addicted she has a very addictive personality ive seen people who get addicted to thews drugs and its not pretty on friend i had was at a point where she was giving blowjobs for E. im terrified. any impute on what to do would work very well shes only 17 almost 18 and i care about her alt and i dont want anything bad to happen to her she doesnt seem to realise that she isnt invincible she doesnt see the addictive qualities especily the ecstacy ive drayed to tell her its not a physical addiction that gets people hooked its the mental aspect which turns physical but she doesnt want to hear it and she got real depressed after i told her what happened to me. HELP ME.
PS sri about spelling and grammer real tired and in a rush so ill come by later when i have more time and fix it all up.
Also if you tell a counselor or other person in authority they WILL NOT tell your friend that you are the one who told on her. I mean if she gets addicted to drugs this can effect her life forever. You being the friend that you are can support her but if you truly care jst mention it to her counselor and tell her counselor that you are NOT sure if she is serious or not. Your counselor will know how to handle it and your friend not make the mistake of trying drugs..
ok yea thats a good idea ill start working on a way to get in contact with her social worker and shell be able to go from there i dont know how but ill find a way shouldnt be to hard im sneeky. as for the after school program she probly wouldnt do that she usuly has stuff to keep her busy and it wouldnt be so hard. but now on to the other part that i frogot to mention last post and i figure ill let you guys in on it sence your all being a realy big help she smokes weed ocasionaly but shes moving to a group home today and she keeps going on about how shes going to be smoking weed every morning with her friend b4 getting on the buss now im not one to worry about pot and there realy isnt much advice you can give me about this matter. but it does make me think she is doing it for the attention i think she likes the idea that im stepping in and trying to convince her not to do stuff which basicly shows her that i care about her. i duno all i can do is try and get in contact with her social worker.. thx alot for your help and ill contact you soon as i get her name and number and keep you guys up to date...
my mother was an addict for 17 years. its funny, she just wanted to try it also.
the thing is you dont have control over these things once you start.
as well as her own my mother destroyed 2 lives, mine and my sons.
her first husband died of a drug overdose when he was 19, it was the firt time he did E. he didnt get a chance to see his first wedding anniversary. its not worth it really is it?
if she wants to mess her life up, i say good luck to her,she will need it.
this is such a delicate situation, a burden to big for you to carry without the help of professional intervention. Seriously take heed of the words of; brandy681,isabelle & AW805. I am afraid that if you get pulled too deeply into this foray, without the "tools & skills" to handle this problem, you will be affected deeply/possibly adversely, too! Please look after yourself in this matter!
I have to tell you this..... before she takes said drug ...she has the drug in her "possession". Then you both could be arrested if you are with her when she gets caught.
I am glad to hear that you feel better about your friend.
Thank you for the update.
First off you can tell her that many people die even the first time they try E.
You don't die the first time you do E. I've been addicted to it plus every drug you can think of and i was doing E for 6 months every weekend taking about 6 tablets every time and i lived through it. plus i was doing coke, crack, weed and drinking with it. It'd be stupid to tell her you can die because everyone knows they only say that to scare children into not doing it. Thats not the right thing to say to an adult. The only thing people die from doing it is dehydration anyways. It's not even over dosings.
Honey, I think J_9 said "MANY" people die with first time drug use. Not ALL people. You are a very lucky lady and I hope your luck continues but luck does change.
I want to clear another thing up. People DO OVERDOSE and die. I don't know where you are getting this misinformation, but please don't pass it along.
I truly do not understand why some one would take a gamble like that with there life. I also think that any responsible person would tell an adult or a child the truth.
That is what J_9 did........... she told the truth. It is irresponsible of anyone to encourage any kind of drug use.
Honey, I think J_9 said "MANY" people die with first time drug use. Not ALL people. You are a very lucky lady and I hope your luck continues but luck does change.
I want to clear another thing up. People DO OVERDOSE and die. I don't know where you are getting this misinformation, but please don't pass it along.
I truly do not understand why some one would take a gamble like that with there life. I also think that any responsible person would tell an adult or a child the truth.
That is what J_9 did........... she told the truth. It is irresponsible of anyone to encourage any kind of drug use.
my information comes from doing it and about 45 friends that done it. Im not saying drugs are good there horriable and the f**k your life up bad and i wish there was no such thing as drugs. I just get pissed when people say you die from E. Back in the 90's it wasnt MDMA that was used in E and everyone was dieing from it. Now since they changed it its rare to die from it.
An ounce of prevention. I really think that if you are in the middle of this environment, it would be wise for you to seek counselling for yourself. You will then "have the tools" to protect yourself and assist her to find a better path. It goes without saying, your friend needs counselling & guidance, and you can lead her there (she may NOT accept) but at least you have put your best foot forward. Good luck!