ok this isnt so much about addiction but the fear of a close friend of mine getting addicted (more then a friend actually... long story and we may be going out) to cocain and or E. it started like 2 days ago she told me she wants to do coke which scares me allot ive trayed to explain to her not to do it why and all the reasons she shouldnt shes very depressed and shes going through allot right now and i know shell like it to much it will be an excape from everything shes been smoking weed allot lately because of this im tariffed shes going to get addicted espesily on the E. she says she just wants to "try it" but know one just tryes especily ecstacy i told her my story i told her that that was all i wanted to do and im not even depressed basically i told her that after i did it once acutely as i was on it that first time i was already planning my next roll i dont know how to get her not to do it. she promised me she wouldnt but its not like its that hard for her to break that promise infect im convinced she will.. now she might also just be doing this for attention. she says shes wants to do it on saturday which by coincidence falls on the same day im supposed to play pool with a few pul including one of her friends that she thinks i like shes extremely jealous. now im not shur what i should do if i cant stop her. i have thought of a few options they include being there when she does it as a "sober sitter". asking her out on the day that she wants to do it so she cant do it but she might say no.. i dont know i need impute on this im certain shes going to get addicted she has a very addictive personality ive seen people who get addicted to thews drugs and its not pretty on friend i had was at a point where she was giving blowjobs for E. im terrified. any impute on what to do would work very well shes only 17 almost 18 and i care about her alt and i dont want anything bad to happen to her she doesnt seem to realise that she isnt invincible she doesnt see the addictive qualities especily the ecstacy ive drayed to tell her its not a physical addiction that gets people hooked its the mental aspect which turns physical but she doesnt want to hear it and she got real depressed after i told her what happened to me. HELP ME.


PS sri about spelling and grammer real tired and in a rush so ill come by later when i have more time and fix it all up.

J_9

First off you can tell her that many people die even the first time they try E.

51days

yea she knows that already its like totaly backwards she met me on e once and gave me this lecture not to mention she gave it to me when we where going out about 2 years ago almost the same thing she seems to have her mind set on it i think its for the attention but i may be wrong i mean shes just like me said shed never smoke weed now she does whenever she can said shed never do chems now she wants to try them its like watching me from the outside.

J_9

You are really in a tough spot. But if you have been there you know that there is not much you can do. She is going to do it no matter what anyone says.

Now, from what you have written it sounds as though she may be self-medicating from other problems in her life. If this is the case, she needs counseling.

You may have to confront her about this in front of her parents.

51days

and now the hole goes deeper she has no parents shes in foster care about to move out of her foster parents house not to mention i dont know them as for counsiling she already has a good number of theripists working with her if i had a way of getting it touch with her counsalers i would... ok yea i think i can i can talk to her guidence cousler but i need to find out which one it is i dont even go to her school... and yea if its not for the attention which i dont think it is (shes known to do drastic things to see if people realy do care about her) then it is for self medicating ive tryed telling her that its only gona make it worse and how bad the comedown is and why its so bad i told her that if she does it its gona make her more depresed and explained to her why its going to make her depressed and i may have convinced her not to do the e but as for the coke i dunno i dont know anything about coke i dont understand what it does all i know is that the comedown is worth the high so i dont have any reason for her not to other then the adiction part.

51days

should i go with her if i cant convince her not to do it shes planing this for tomorow so i dont have time to do anything about this if she decides to. i obviosly wont to it myself but yea if i cant stop her would this be the best solution

AW805

Its sounds as if she is on a self destructive path and you may never be able to help her. I'm just afraid that you are getting so involved that she may pull you in somehow. You could possibly become an "enabler" or "co dependent". This may all be too huge for you and you may at some point need to walk away for your own emotional health. Talk to counselors or organizations that have 12 step programs available. Stay strong and more importantly don't do this alone.

isabelle

You sound like a very good friend and I commend you for trying to help.
Perhaps you can get in touch with child protective services and they can take it from there. It is a first step.
Please know that you cannot stop her, and you do not want to be there if she is caught and arrested.
Do not be around her when she is trying these things just in case she is trying to get attention.
The most loving thing you can do is call CPS and stay away from her while she is doing drugs. You can not stop or help her. She has to want help. This is very hard to accept because I know you want to help her. You are a very good friend.
You have received some very good advice, but the most important thing is that YOU CAN"T HELP HER. It is probably the hardest thing to accept. Good luck and let us know what happens.

51days

ok well i think she was going for attention she hasnt mentiond it at all sence friday we ended up hanging out on saterday and she and her friend stayed at my house i think she just didnt want me to go out on saterday cause shes afraid im gona start flerting whith her friend anyway yea i think its pased im pretty shur i dont have to worry anymore but if anything does happen i will try and find somone to talk i think ill contact her social worker... im not worried about her getting arrested there is no law against having done a drug only posesion. so im just gona keep my eye out for know but im pretty shur it was just for the attention. thx for the help ppl ill keep up with this and tell you guys if i find anything else out about it.

brandy681

She may still be thinking about the drugs and just not mentioning it, allthough you colud be correct and she may just want attention. Either way I wouldn't take the chance and if she is that needy for attention she may eventually try drugs. You may want to mention it to her counserlor and tell her not to say anything about what you told her. Her couselor is smart and will know how to handle the situation perfectly and this means that she is AWARE if what is going on in her life. Because you know that she is not going to say anything to her counselor. See.... Counselors know away around this to make her understand about the drugs in ways you wont believe. She can get involved with better friends and keep busy. I had a friend that was 15 and thinking about drugs, her mother knew that she was thinking about it because friends mentioned it and her counselor put her in a special teen program to keep busy. At first she did not like the after school program but she began to love it... Her counselor needs to know what is going on in her life, so that she can help. That is what they are there for.