I need some help on a very difficult situation. My boyfriend is addicted to drugs. Right now it is crystal meth, before it was cocaine, crack, etc. i don't know what to do! we have been together for over 5 years and it hurts to see him like this, especially when i know how good of a man he is! (i know that addiction is blind).
I found his pipe not to long ago and confronted him, and it seemed to stop for a bit until the other day when i began to notice sores on his face again. I use to be able to tell when he was high or not but now it just seems to be the same person regardless. Also, i use to care and i let it bother me and i would be on his about it all the time but now i feel like there is nothing left for me to give anymore. It doesn't only affect him it does me as well. His whole demeanor changes and he is no longer the person that i feel in love with.
I know he needs help... but he never seems to think so! he says that he controls it not the other way! It is even worse now because we're both beginning to lose friends because of it and they're the sober ones and not the ppl who want drugs or something from him.
I have thought many of times to just leave him and get on with my life, but i truly love him and i don't want to abandon him like everyone else seems to do, but i fear he will need to hit rock bottom to recover!!! i love him!!!!
please any advice

ellenbrn

Leave him it may be the catylst to get clean. He may love you, but in his addiction he doesn't even love himself so how can he love you. Tell him you are leaving him until he gets himself clean. Don't let him tell you it is not a problem. It is. Obviously it bothers you. You might even realize during your seperation that you are really better off without him. I went through this with my ex-husband. I realized that I could support myself and my son better than him,and his habit as well. They lie and steal to get their next high and can not be trusted. my ex and I divorced 10 years ago and he has had no contact with my son in 10 yrs. I heard from him recently he is now "clean" 4-5 months, but he is not excepting responsibility yet for his actions. Cut your losses.

mcneill2181

Thank you for your advice and I know it is what i need to do i just worry too much about him and how he will be. I have tried a couple of times, most recently i moved out but he moved in shortly after. He has lied too many times to count and stolen from me on more than several occasions. I have gone into debt and presumed responsibility for all the bills and everything else. We had our home broken into and my very expensive television stolen by ppl that he knows because of the drugs. I no longer feel safe in my own place. I know i enable him to do this because i take care of him, but it is so hard to just leave. If you had any advice on how you left( i know that might sound stupid) but i just don't know HOW to leave him.

ChihuahuaMomma

You need to leave him for your baby's sake. Trust me, in the end you will much rather be a single mother than raise a child around someone like that.