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Does anyone have any horror stories that will scare me away from PCP. I have been using for over six years and I need to stop. I have children who need me and even though I know it, it's not enough to help me kill this addiction. Please Help me.
You don't need horror stories, you need a slap in the face. You have children depending on you, and the drugs are evidently more important than they are.
You are the horror story that people can look at and know if they need help. It doesn't get much lower than where you are, but the question should be, are you ready to get help and what are you willing to do about it. There is not an easy way out.
Take a look at yourself, and call a drug hotline to get assistance. Or do your children a favor and call children's survices so they can put your children somewhere that gives them a higher priority than what you have.
No, you don't need a judgemental slap in the face. All you asked for was some terrible inspiration because the PCP has a terrible grip on you. You are reaching out for help.
You realize that you have a problem. You know it is affecting your kids. You are asking for help in kicking this addiction. Only someone who has never been addicted to anything (or an ex-smoker) would be so unkind. The non-addicts think that addiction is a bad choice you have made, without thought of others.
True, addiction doesn't care about anyone, even you. But you are not shameful and evil, the drug's hold on you is. Addiction itself is a horror story, but the disease tells you that it's not a problem. It lies. The following are the truth.
Horror story: A drugged up mom put her kids into the car and then ran back to get her purse. She then backed out of the driveway. When she returned home, there was her four-year-old, dead, run over in the driveway.
Horror story: Mom has begun locking herself in the bathroom to get high. She hears the kids knocking on the door, but does not interrupt her drug use to answer them. One day she hears strange voices outside the bathroom door. CPS came and took her kids away. Several years later she is still not allowed to see them, even though she kicked the drug habit.
Horror story: The mom has no friends since she kicked drugs and didn't get involved with Narcotics Anonymous. Her husband won't speak to her and she is allowed a once a month supervised visitation with her children. Desperate to have any human contact, she begins hanging out at her old dealer's house. She begins using drugs again. Five years later she has to sell her body to buy drugs. She dies of an overdose.
Horror story: This woman has never gotten into trouble because of her drug use. She didn't lose her children or husband. She hid it for years. She decides to quit and does everything recommended to her. Now she realizes how much time hiding her addiction took. The lack of sneaking and constant guilt is gone. But she has aged faster and has wrinkles and weak bones far advanced of her actual age. Not so bad really.
Join a Narcotics Anonymous group. (Quit when you are "ready" to, knowing that you may quit and start a few times before it's over, hoping that the first quit will stick) Get a sponsor who's story you can relate to. Follow all instructions you are given. Go to more meetings than you think you need. Read everything you can get your hands on about addiction, about PCP. After a few weeks without drugs, tell your children and significant other what is going on with you. Ask for their support but do not expect them to understand. Go to more meetings. Get two or more service positions in those meetings.
Once you quit, it's likely that you will need to continue to be embroiled with other "quitters" for the rest of your life. That's a positive! Those are folks who know what it is like, to be addicted, then free.
When you are met with disgust, or a lecture about being a druggie? walk away. Find a meeting, pray, have fun with your family and forget that some people will never understand, because you can't change them. You can change you.
I didn't mean to sound so judgemental in my prior post. My intention was to have her look at her own life and really evaluate the outcome of the drug use, and to think about what steps she was ready to take to stop using. My thought was that by having her view her own life as already being an example of the "horror story" that she would not think "Oh, that will never happen to me" but instead reallize that bad stuff is already happening. I am a pack a day smoker, but have never been addicted to anything else, other than caffeine.
I appreciate your comments simoneaugie and altenweg, and will try to keep them in mind when talking to addicts in the future. I'm going to post a new thread to see what ideas other people may have as far as approaches for working with people with addictions.
Finally, I want to appologize to the OP if she felt personally attacked. And I also did not mean a literal slap in the face, only figurative. I do not believe in violence.
I have seen very few addicts who quit for logical reasons. Until your dope causes you enough misery, and pain, to motivate change, you will use until it kills you, or they lock you up. So sadly you'll keep doping, and not care to get help, so you can kiss your kids good bye, and get another hit. When your ready there is help.
news flash*
Yesterday a women was found dead in her home her 3 kids are now left motherless. she died of an overdose
or how about
yesterday a women was arrested, for drug use. apparently one of her 3 children saw her using and wanted some thankfully the mother said no. but the child did some when the mother wasnt looking. the child is now in critical care and will have perminent brain damage. the other children have been removed from the home
FYI these storys are about u and what could happen
-dont make me make more...
No, you don't need a judgemental slap in the face. All you asked for was some terrible inspiration because the PCP has a terrible grip on you. You are reaching out for help.
You realize that you have a problem. You know it is affecting your kids. You are asking for help in kicking this addiction. Only someone who has never been addicted to anything (or an ex-smoker) would be so unkind. The non-addicts think that addiction is a bad choice you have made, without thought of others.
True, addiction doesn't care about anyone, even you. But you are not shameful and evil, the drug's hold on you is. Addiction itself is a horror story, but the disease tells you that it's not a problem. It lies. The following are the truth.
Horror story: A drugged up mom put her kids into the car and then ran back to get her purse. She then backed out of the driveway. When she returned home, there was her four-year-old, dead, run over in the driveway.
Horror story: Mom has begun locking herself in the bathroom to get high. She hears the kids knocking on the door, but does not interrupt her drug use to answer them. One day she hears strange voices outside the bathroom door. CPS came and took her kids away. Several years later she is still not allowed to see them, even though she kicked the drug habit.
Horror story: The mom has no friends since she kicked drugs and didn't get involved with Narcotics Anonymous. Her husband won't speak to her and she is allowed a once a month supervised visitation with her children. Desperate to have any human contact, she begins hanging out at her old dealer's house. She begins using drugs again. Five years later she has to sell her body to buy drugs. She dies of an overdose.
Horror story: This woman has never gotten into trouble because of her drug use. She didn't lose her children or husband. She hid it for years. She decides to quit and does everything recommended to her. Now she realizes how much time hiding her addiction took. The lack of sneaking and constant guilt is gone. But she has aged faster and has wrinkles and weak bones far advanced of her actual age. Not so bad really.
Join a Narcotics Anonymous group. (Quit when you are "ready" to, knowing that you may quit and start a few times before it's over, hoping that the first quit will stick) Get a sponsor who's story you can relate to. Follow all instructions you are given. Go to more meetings than you think you need. Read everything you can get your hands on about addiction, about PCP. After a few weeks without drugs, tell your children and significant other what is going on with you. Ask for their support but do not expect them to understand. Go to more meetings. Get two or more service positions in those meetings.
Once you quit, it's likely that you will need to continue to be embroiled with other "quitters" for the rest of your life. That's a positive! Those are folks who know what it is like, to be addicted, then free.
When you are met with disgust, or a lecture about being a druggie? walk away. Find a meeting, pray, have fun with your family and forget that some people will never understand, because you can't change them. You can change you.
Thank you for understanding how bad I want help. I don't have anyone to turn to and am so grateful for All of your comments. I will read this everyday as I work to become clean. I don't know what to expect in the process of recovery except for the withdrawls. I welcolm all support and even prayer if you are a beleiver. I want to get through this sooo bad. I want to live for my kids and their kids and possibly their kids. I will call today to see about meetings. And again, thank you for such a motivating comment!
I'll give you a personal horror story. I had a friend who came over to my house (this was a good 30 years ago). He sat on the sofa and we were chatting away. He causally told me that he had taken some PCP and if anything happened to him to just ignore him. Well, he no sooner said that and he passed out cold and fell off the couch and was on the floor. I could not get any pulse or feel his breath out of his nose. I called the EMS squad to come over to revive him or whatever. They were on their way over as I could hear sirens wailing away headed towards my home. They drove up and knocked on the door. Just as they were knocking on the door - this guy wakes up and stands up and acts like there was nothing wrong with him!!! Oh my God I thought this guy was DEAD to put it mildly and in my livingroom to boot. The EMS checked him out and left. I told them what he said just before he passed out and it being South Florida and I'm sure they had seen this before - they just left. I told this guy to immediately leave my home and never return if he kept using the PCP and decided to come to my house to die.
I can't imagine why you could or would be hooked on such a horrible drug as PCP and expect to keep walking around having horrible complications possibly happen to you each time you use it.
Please, please for the sake of your kids do seek help and stay clean! Good luck.
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