[plonak]

Everyone's anatomy is basically the same, but they all come in different shapes and sizes.. my guess is that you're big (you said you needed maxim condoms) and maybe she is really tight and not very deep. So entering her may just be difficult because of your different shapes.. could be a possibility..

Also, when you're trying to enter her are you completely hard? If you aren't, it is nearly impossible to go inside... make sure your erections are very firm before you start..

Hope this helps

[jenniepepsi]

out of curiosity, and I hope this doesn't sound bad, if she is a virgin, are you trying hard enough to get in? With a virgin you have to push in pretty hard. That's why it hurts. Its tearing the hymen. If your hitting the hymen wall, and not pushing through, for whatever reason (fear is a big issue) then its not going to work.

there are some creams that may help. x-tacy may help a great deal, as it acts as a lubrication and a sensation helper.

good luck hon.

[sandalwood7]

Agree totally with Artlay and gemini once again...

Practice makes perfect... don't give up.

Make sure that she has been checked by a doc. Some people can have hard-to-break hymens which needs surgical assistance.

It is painful to break the hymen, especially if you are big. My first time was excrutiating.

Make sure you are hard and she is wet (lube if necessary)

Make sure you have x-large condoms or a condom that fits you (It should slide on quite easily, but still be firm fitting)

Use heaps of lube... may I suggest gun oil? Go to sex shop and ask for this. It is a silicon based lube that stays wet for much longer.

Talk to each other and keep trying. Sex is not amazing the first time... It takes a long time to learn the tricks. You both need to be relaxed and not stressed out. Try a lot of foreplay first...

She also needs to try masturbating so she can learn what she likes.

Try using lube and putting your fingers inside her or a vibrator (small one) inside her. Do oral sex as well... Does she understand her body? Does she use tampons? The vagina is actually at a bit of an angle. Both look for pics on the internet.

It takes time... but keep trying!

[twinkiedooter]

Gun oil stinks! I would never use that as a lubricant. Just WHERE did you get your education and/or credentials to be a health care worker or a doctor? Unbelievable to even recommend or even mention gun oil.

****shaking head in wonderment*****

[sandalwood7]

Gun pil is a brand of silicon based lubricant. I should have made myself clearer... I didn't mean to use literal gun oil as a lubricant.Silicon based lubricants are hypoallergenic, and also last longer than conventional lubrucants. This is why I recommended a silicon-based lubricant.

[Fr_Chuck]

I will add before I close this thread, the brand gun oil for a sexual lube is not very well known, esp here in the US, no one at most of the sex shops locally have ever heard of it
** I actually researched it

And from some of the online research it appears to be more popular among the homosexual crowd.

I may recommend just saying using a lube and not naming one brand, so people know what you are saying