Originally Posted by freakinconfused
I know this thread is supposed to be about posting letters, etc. To you ex, but this line of mafiaangel180's letter is the thing I think I worry most about. I might be taking it out of context a bit, but I always worry that if I keep up No Contact and always act like I'm fine and dandy when she contacts me, then she'll simply think I don't care about her or have moved on and lost interest in her. I mean, WHAT IF, and I know it's a long shot, but WHAT IF she really starts to resent dumping me, and realizes that what we had was special. Then she decides that she would like to come back. And then lets assume that if that time comes, I haven't moved on and would like to still be with her. I'm afraid she won't know how to ask me if she wants me back, or think that I'm not interested because I put on this attitude of indifference.
In my opinion it's hard to answer that question because I have never been in that situation. However, if your ex ever does want to get back with you then she will try to contact you. When, and if, that happens I feel that all you can do is remain calm, composed, and kind. Don't brag about how great things are and don't be indifferent. When she asks "How are you doing?" simply respond with "I'm doing well. I've just been real busy at work, school, etc. How about you?" I would keep the focus of the conversation off of me and instead on her, and hopefully at some point she brings up our relationship.
Aside from this I'm not sure what else to do. Really you just need to enjoy life. It's pretty fair to assume that if your having fun with life she will eventually find out through mutual friends (if you have any). That's something you can't stop, nor should you try too. Conversely, if you go around feeling sad about the situation and telling everyone how much you miss her she will likely find out too, but I guarantee that won't bring her back, just give her an ego boost.
Just relax, be yourself, and move on. I truly believe that if she wants another shot at the relationship she will let you know somehow, and from there you respond accordingly.