Originally Posted by adwnis
hi everyone I'm new here and I want immediately some answers...I was in a relationship with this girl back home for 1,5 years.we loved each other but sometimes cause I was jealous I made her cry and she didn't know what to do..she loved a lot and I loved her too.
This year I came to uk for studies..at first we didn't speak very good to each other ans suddenly she told me she wanted a break to our relationship to leave her some space to think..but cause I loved her I didn't want to leave her alone that's the problem and she was speakink awaful to me..one week ago she told me she met a guy and that they talk very friendly..and because I was jealous I was saying but things to her and as a result she told me not to call her again..she tells me that she loves me but its difficult for her the distance and that I am jealous and she said that she won't do anything with the other guy and want me to leave her alone...its been one week I don't eat,I cry a lot and don't know what to do..she called me today to see how am I but she said to me she doesn't want to be together she likes her life now that she's alone
My questions are why she's saying that she loves me and doesn't want to be with me...
What if I give her some space and then falls in love with the other guy..I don't know what to think anymore
Please help me tell me what to do..I love her
I know how you feel, cause I`m a very jealous person in a relationship too.... But you have to learn to LET GO a bit. If you love her, then why are you strangeling her? She probably does love you, but your jealousy destroyed it. And by being jealous, you indirectly tell her that she can`t be trusted, and that`s not nice of her to hear from you... You have to let go, and tell her that you respect her decision and you just want her to be happy... Tell her that you can understand why she can`t be with you, because you have a jealousy problem, but you just love her too much so it`s difficult for you to control yourself sometimes..
And if it`s meant to be, u`ll be together again.
Do you know that if you`re too jealous and controlling, you can actually drive your lover to cheat on you? That`s a fact, so take control of your emotions before both of you gets really hurt, if it`s not too late already...
Wish you the best of luck, try to eat something, and I promise you that you`ll be all right.
Take care. Xxx.