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Simplythebest · Sep 17, 2007, 12:22 PM

I am 20 and my friend is 21 he has a girlfriend but we have known each other since we were 13 and every so often he makes quick glances at me and when we were young we used to look into each others eyes and one time I thought he was going to kiss me. He makes sex jokes and flirts with me occasionally, this has happened for the last 7 years. I am admittedly Bisexual since I was 15 but now it has gotten to the point where now I am really curious I do sort of have crush on him lately. I thought it was my imagination when we were young but he's started doing it more often. I need some well written advice. Is he Gay, Bisexual, or just joking around. I really need your help!

P.S I haven't told him I have had a crush on him, in case it spoils our friendship

P.S.S I have asked him if he's gay but he just walks away from the question or changes the subject.

Thank!

smoothy · Sep 17, 2007, 12:35 PM

If he was gay he wouldn't be chasing women. He'd be chasing guys exclusively. I'd say its highly possible he is bi however.

templelane · Sep 17, 2007, 12:43 PM

Doesn't matter if he is bi, gay or green if he has a girlfriend he is out of bounds.

alkalineangel · Sep 17, 2007, 12:49 PM

Originally Posted by smoothy

If he was gay he wouldn't be chasing women. He'd be chasing guys exclusively. I'd say its highly possible he is bi however.

Not necessarily, some men use a "cover" if they are not ready to be out or find it wrong...

To the OP, I think that there is nothing you can do regardless. Unless your friend openly comes out, you will not be able to progress. There is no way to know either way unless he acknowledges it. If if he is gay, you can not push him. And if he is not gay, you can not make him that way. I suggest, while it may be hard to let go of the crush, its best to hold on to the friend, and search elsewhere for the lover. Good luck.