I would like to thank all of you for your advice. My husband wasn't like this when we met and I know that he does still care some because he quit calling her and going to see her until the other day when I posted this. We were on our way to his parents when we came up on a car accident and it ended up being her in the car. He insists that he would have done the same thing if it was me but I'm starting to realize that my family and his are right I guess I just needed to hear it from someone who wasn't related to either of us for it to really sink in.