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inlove134 · Apr 9, 2007, 08:55 PM

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years on and off and I thought that I really and truly loved him but now Im not so sure. I mean after we broke up the last time my feelings for him kind of left. I don't want to break up with him but I don't know if I could ever love him again. I don't know if its worth it anymore. What should I do?

missyou · Apr 9, 2007, 09:18 PM

Aww I totally know how that feels.
I read somewhere that we are actually biologically wired to "love" someone for the amount of time it would take to make a baby and take care of it until it would walk/feed itself. Apparently about 3 to 5 years.
So maybe it's just that initial hormonal love feeling that's gone. I was in this same boat, though, about a year ago, I had been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and we had taken month-long breaks during the summers a few times... but I really felt like I didn't love him anymore. I was sure that was it and it was over FOR GOOD this time...

I was single for 6 months... longest break yet... but winter came around, and thank God he still wanted me back, because I wanted him back, too. We've been together for a year and a half since... making the total time together like 6 years.

Point is, you never know what you're going to want later, espcially if you're like me, a "fickle female" or whatever you want to call it. If you don't want him now, maybe you should take a break and see how you feel without him. You'll either be glad you did and move on, or be glad you did and realize that you really do love him still. The only risk is that you may not be as lucky as me and have a guy that couldn't move on.

Think about it and good luck!

cmptitantic · Apr 10, 2007, 05:43 AM

Hey inlove134,

Me and my girlfriend went on a break a few weeks ago it was her choice we got into a argument and she said she needed to be alone and you no the normal routine. Im not sure right now lets see what happens in the future yada yada yada... Anyway a few days later after me trying to get her to change her mind it worked. We are back togethor now and everything seems to be good. The point here is that I no exactly what your boyfriend is going through so one of the most important thing to me and most people is to be honest with him and mostly yourself. There is no fast and easy answer but talking about it always makes me feel better that's the only thing I wish there was more of with me and my girlfriend. One more thing is there anyone else?
Do you think about being with other men?
If not don't make the wrong mistake maybee your just going through a fase keep me posted...

missyou · Apr 11, 2007, 11:09 PM

Titanic-
Wow! A guy that wants to talk with his girlfriend more... usually it's the other way around! You're a keeper!
inlove134-
That's another thing, about liking another guy. When I broke up with my boyfriend, it was because I thought I liked another guy, someone I hardly even knew, which allowed me to have this perfect image of him in my head. Turns out he wasn't that great compared to my boyfriend... so just be careful about breaking it off with someone who has been there for you just because you're in love with a fantasy. :)