I would say that you just don't know what you want I think you are not ready to settle down and I don't think either are right for you in my opinion. I would say the best thing for you to do is stay with your current girlfriend and this crush on this other woman will soon die down and just don't make any quick decisions. If someone is dense but they are kind and loving and sweet then those qualities are most important. You already said this other girl is a . You have not said your current girlfriend is a however.