This is really worth a close look. What Geoff said here is exactly where you will need to end up naturally. It takes time but its a lot like getting fired from a job. At some point you realise it was for the best because you didn't really fit in there to begin with and now you are free to find where you do fit in. So you pick up your self esteem from the sidewalk, dust it off and say, "Well, her loss!" and move on. No one in their right mind would want someone who doesn't want them. And none of us have the power to tell another who to want or not want. So accept that she doesn't want you and let it go. Anything else only stalls the inevitable and increases your pain.