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Apr 3, 2012, 03:11 AM


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Originally Posted by Marshmallowpeng View Post
I've been out with a guy with the 3 year age gap aswell. My parents were okay with it because they knew him and it was the same age gap too - me 13 the other 16. I know everyone else believes that you should not be dating this boy. But when you think about it, your parents have not mAde an educated decision, they dont know enough about the situation. Make sure you explain that he respects you and is and would not pressure you to have sex with him. Maybe have your parents meet him, so they can get to know him. If your boyfriend truly does like you, he will agree to come. Go to a meal or just simply sit around the house. Talk calmly as this will show your parents you are more mature and you are perfectly capable of having a responsible relationship with an plder boy. and try to get to the root of what is worrying your parents about your relationship with him. I hope I helped ! Love anna x
I agree with some of what you say here. Yes the OP needs to talk to her parents, have them meet the boy, maybe talk to his parents. And yes she needs to be calm about it. But I have a big problem with your response here because you make assumptions that are wrong and dangerous. You say her parents "dont know enough about the situation", but then neither do you. All you know is what the OP has told us. And you assume she is mature enough to be dating one on one at 13 (not likely). You assume her parents don't know what is best for her. You assume her parents haven't made an effort to know the boy.

Its one thing to advise someone to make sure their parents know all the facts. It is way another thing to assume they don't.
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