Originally Posted by DaniCalifornia
(It wasn't me that put the inaccurate!)
Judy while that may be true in some cases, not that many 20 year olds are that stereotypical party-goer that can't commit. I'm 20 with the state of mind of someone already married. I'd like to settle down and start a family in a few years. I say this, as I certainly wouldn't be dating someone longer than a few months if they didn't have plans to commit. Though I suppose the line of maturity differs with cultural variations and opinions.
Truth is, you can't MAKE someone trust you. It's either there or it isn't. If someone is insecure to not trust you without you having cheated on them, it's their own issue they need to deal with themselves. A year is long enough by any standards. If he hasn't fallen for you by now, he never will.
Agree - you can't make anyone do anything.
My concern over the 20/40 commitment is if you are a female, wanting to have children (not step, your own), you can spend 5 years working out a relationship at 20. At 40 you don't have that kind of time. I'm not saying grab the first sperm donor who crosses your line of vision, but things are different.
And, yes, I absolutely agree that a person who trusts no one is very possibly doing something in his/her private life and transferring that onto everyone he/she meets.