My philosophy is what I call Expiritualism, which means that all experiences are made by choice. Your experiences are your choice, and yours alone! I believe this from personal experience. No pun intended, but funny no-less.
If you know in your heart what you want, but you choose to ignore it, then you make your own failed-experience. If you choose to think that life is unfair, then you create unfair experiences. It is easier to change an experience, than it is to change a belief!