Hi good_gal,

Take a look at what you have said. He is experienced and wants to do things that you don't want to. Do you think that the two of you won't stay together if you don't do these things? Is that why you are considering it? Has he in anyway made you feel that he would leave and find someone else if you don't do these things?

Never, Never, Never should you do something that you know is not right for you just because some guy wants you to. You would regret it. You could end up with big problems....possible pregnancy for example if things went too far.

You have to look at this with your head and not your heart. Yes, he may be a nice guy, and you may be cute together, but if you feel any pressure from him, then let him go.

IF he really cares about you, and your well-being, he won't suggest that you do anything that could cause problems for you. He would want to show you how much he respects you by not putting any pressure on you. You have been dating only one month. This boy is going to be trouble for you if he is asking you to do things that you don't want to.

I know it can be exciting and nice to have an older guy be interested in you, but he has shown that he is only interested in what he can get from you.

If you still aren't sure, put it to the test:

Tell him that you aren't ready to do these things and that you don't know when you will be....probably not until you are older. See what he says to you. His response, either soon after you say it, or after a bit of time, will let you know if he really cares about you or if he is more interested in what he wants.