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NenoX · Jun 25, 2011, 02:31 AM

All questions merged together.

If you get dumped by the woman you loved deeply for almost two years and asked her hand in marriage. She was almost perfect in your eyes, everything you ever wanted ( looks wise as well as personality) and she was deeply in love with you at the beginning but the mess started to happen one year into the relationship.

Do you think you'll fall in love again, and will you love and admire the new person as much as you loved the first one and even more OR will you always carry the most special feelings for the first one even though it didn't work out between you two ?

PS: the woman who dumped you ran off and married another guy within months of your separation.

I would love to know your opinion

Thanks

redhed35 · Jun 25, 2011, 02:36 AM

Hurt is hurt no matter what the gender, and yes you can move on and heal and love again.

But, it takes time to heal, time to find a new normal and be happy on your own, when you achieve that your ready to try and again.

The cliché that time heals all wounds is true, it gives you 20/20 vision on the relationship, the healing is slow but the more you do to help yourself the shorter the process.

talaniman · Jun 25, 2011, 08:24 AM

Of course you will! Even more so, if you let go of the past, and look to the future.

You may fall in deep love SEVERAL times in your life, before you find the one who you can build a life with, MAN, or WOMAN!

Break ups suck every time though, that's just the nature of the beast, but you can heal, recover, and move on happily EVERY TIME, if you want to.

Jake2008 · Jun 26, 2011, 08:24 AM

Falling in love, and being in love, is not gender specific. Both men and women, and anybody I personally know, has been in love more than once in their lifetime.

NenoX · Jun 30, 2011, 09:32 AM

Do you compare the physical and emotional aspects of an ex that you loved so deeply to the girl you're currently with, a girl you love very much? If yes, How do you compare and why?!

talaniman · Jun 30, 2011, 02:46 PM

I never did, why would I? What purpose would it serve? Heck if an ex is still so en grained in your brain, then you aren't ready for any relationship, and comparing one to another is a red flag that you haven't healed, and gotten healthy enough for a healthy adult relationship. That's not love, its more like a quick fix to feel good.

No different than junkies or drunks.

xxEricsonxx1243 · Jun 30, 2011, 04:07 PM

Yes I do I normally compare with what I did with my ex and what I am doing with my current GF me and my ex done more things so I sort of miss her and why I think how would things be different no because of that it gave me to this problem

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BK201 · Jul 1, 2011, 07:48 AM

Nope. When Im in love with my girl I won't be thinking about my X. But if my love is fading, and at the same time I getting in touch with my X, then my mind would start comparing.

NenoX · Jul 3, 2011, 06:10 AM

I'm wondering if feelings come back after meeting an ex who you were with for almost two years but eventually didn't work out few moths before the wedding!!

If you see the ex after three years of the breakup, will feelings come back, will you feel the same amount of love you once felt towards that person, knowing that you have moved on and happily in a new relationship with someone else.

talaniman · Jul 3, 2011, 07:46 AM

Of course old memories and feelings will return when you see an ex. Even after a 100 years. You will just handle them differently than you did before, HOPEFULLY. If indeed you are healthier, and happier, and have grown in knowledge and experience in you you cope with YOUR feelings.