Life is so much easier with the opposite sex, when you see them as fellow humans who are potential friends, just like the guys you party, and pal around with, and not through the lens of other relationships or even replacing the last romantic person. Dating is about having fun, not an interview to see if she measures up to your standards of a mate.
| Talaniman Rule- never be in a hurry to give your heart to a stranger. Wait until they have proven they deserve it, and know what to do with it. |
| Talaniman Rule- Doesn't matter how intense the feelings, or how much fun you have, never give your heart to someone you don't know well, and that's only after the lust has worn off for you both. |
That takes time, usually after the lust wears off and the real talking begins in most cases because those early sex romps cloud our judgment, and the intense physical feeling disarms common sense, and distracts us into ignoring any red flags we would normally pay attention too. We get more facts later, as the beginning of any attraction has both people putting on their best mask, and nicest behavior. We think we may be in love, but how can you really know? Especially if they smell good AND look good.
| Talaniman Rule - Date them all, short, fat, skinny, or tall. 18- 80, blind, cripple or crazy. |
Not only will this keep you from getting attached too fast, but keep you from becoming so attached fueled by those romantic fantasies that intense feelings bring about. Its about having FUN, making friends, and having a balanced healthy social life to look forward too. That keeps things in some kind of order and perspective and lets you see reality, and keeps you cautious so you don't get carried away by intense feelings.
| Talaniman Rule- If one person isn't available, there are millions that are. Don't get stuck on one who is BUSY with other things. |
| Talaniman Rule - Don't miss other opportunities and options because your stuck on someone who is not as stuck on you, that's just plain crazy. |
This is the simple reality, that hurt feelings and broken hearts try to hide from us. I know, we are to hurt to care about reality, right? Well after a while, trust me, you get tired of feeling bad any way, so you may as well get the crying over with, and get back to real life, and put the past in the past, and let go of the hurt,. It will pass if you let it go. All of it, and move forward replacing OLD memories, with NEW ones.
| Talaniman Rule-When you stop looking for love, and do your thing, and enjoy ALL YOUR OPTIONS, AND OPPORTUNITIES, love will find you. |
The world moves on whether we are happy or sad, hurt or not. You may as well get on the merry go round of life, ASAP! Now you can sit and sulk and pity your self, or you can get busy for yourself, but you will find that happy people have fun and enjoy the healing just because the are now free to explore the rest of the world. You find nothing, and you do nothing, by not doing your own thing, or at least find out what your thing is that you want to do, and how you want to do it.
| Talaniman Rule-Build a life that you enjoy without a mate and your happiness will attract people who will want to share in it with you. |
Thats the true point of life, and only you are responsible for your happiness, and not someone else, not an ex, not anyone but you. Once you take responsibility for your own happiness, then you can define your life, your loves, your wants, and your needs. You may also learn about yourself and define YOURSELF in the process, and be who you want to be.
Everyone enjoys being happy, and its easy when things are good. But what defines a person, is being happy during the hard times, and getting through it. Its all about how you deal with whatever life throws at you.No matter what it is. Its not about having somebody, its always about being somebody,. Just be YOU. And be good to yourself.