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clairethebear · Dec 26, 2010, 06:18 PM

Please help. My 13 year old son hates me, and tells me all the time how bad of a mother I am. I try an give him what he what's but if I don't then he cries about it all the time until I give in. I have just recently got engaged and he's even trying to split us up, saying that he doesn't like my partner because he's not his dad. His own father died a few years back. I know that there is issues there for him abiut his dad but he won't take to no one about them, he never knew his father. I have tried taking him to doctors, child phycologists, councillors but he won't talk to no one. Help because I don't know what else to do.

Wondergirl · Dec 26, 2010, 06:26 PM

Originally Posted by clairethebear

Please help. My 13 year old son hates me and tells me all the time how bad of a mother I am.

This is pretty much par for the course, even if a child that age doesn't have an "excuse" like yours does.

I try an give him what he what's but if I don't then he cries about it all the time until I give in.

Please don't give in, even when he cries about it. By giving in, you are only making things worse.

I have just recently got engaged and he's even trying to split us up, saying that he doesn't like my partner because he's not his dad.

That's also typical. Why didn't he ever know his father?

I have tried taking him to doctors, child phycologists, councillors but he won't talk to no one. Help because I don't know what else to do.

YOU go to a counselor. You're the one in charge and the caretaker, the parent. YOU go to talk about how to do your job and to figure out how to get through to your son. He's walking all over you.

jenniepepsi · Dec 26, 2010, 08:55 PM

+1 to everything WG said!!

You need to grow a back bone honey! Stop letting him have his way, stop getting him what he wants. You have a spoiled child. And you need to break that habit. Its going to be hard, it has gone on for far too long. But it will be worth it in the end. Sit down with him. Explain that the behavior is NOT going to be stood for any longer. Lay out the rules and the consequences for breaking those rules. And STICK TO IT!!

Start with one step at a time. The next time he wants something, tell him NO. and STICK TO IT. It can be hard at first. But if you stick to it it wlil get easier.

And I agree again with WG. YOU go see a psychologist. Find out what is holding you back from being a parent, and get help in bringing out your 'mommy voice' *you know, that big scary voice that makes even adults shake in their shoes when they hear it from mommy*