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    Sep 30, 2010, 02:43 PM
    I have trouble having an orgasm so my boyfriend would rather watch porn.
    I have have always had trouble climaxing, but with the last 3 guys I was with I was able to achieve an orgasms on a regular basis orally. However my new boyfriend that I have been with for 4 months can't make me ***. I love him very much and want to have sex all the time anyway but because he can't make me orgasm he would rather watch porn. He has had TONS of partners and has never had a problem with anyone but me which puts pressure on me when I do try to ***. I am not sure what to do because he wants it less and less now but watches porn daily. Need some help.
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    Sep 30, 2010, 05:19 PM

    How old are you both?
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    Sep 30, 2010, 05:26 PM

    First bull, your boyfriend most likely is lying about past girl friends, next if he follows your instruction on what you like in foreplay he should be able to before you begin sex.

    If he is saying everyone else did, every time, either he is lying or the girls merely pretended to
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    Oct 1, 2010, 03:23 AM
    I am 28 and he is 32.
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    Oct 1, 2010, 05:37 AM

    Tell him that the destination is NOT the point---and that the more that both of you focus on the destination, the less likely you are to get there.
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    Aug 14, 2012, 09:28 PM
    I would reassure him that you really enjoy sex with him, orgasm or no. and point out that if he's really concerned about pleasing you, he won't get anywhere by spending time with porn rather than with you. It also sounds like his ego is bruised. Maybe fake one orgasm to get his confidence going. Then the next time you guys try he'll have that one 'success' under his belt to encourage him.. . however, if you really have something against faking it, then that probably isn't the strategy to go with.
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    Aug 15, 2012, 07:12 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by backpack2389 View Post
    i would reassure him that you really enjoy sex with him, orgasm or no. and point out that if he's really concerned about pleasing you, he won't get anywhere by spending time with porn rather than with you. it also sounds like his ego is bruised. maybe fake one orgasm to get his confidence going. then the next time you guys try he'll have that one 'success' under his belt to encourage him. ...however, if you really have something against faking it, then that probably isn't the strategy to go with.

    Would you please take a look at the dates before you respond? No one will receive notice of your post except for the other people who have responded.

    When it's two years old and the OP hasn't come back chances are they no longer want or need the advice, and there are plenty of "new" people who are waiting for answers.
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