My husband is a personable person, he is always going out of his way to do things for other people. Everyone tells me he is a dream. He cooks which is his favorite thing to do, because he loves to do that, and then he throws that in my face. He makes the kids clean the house. He always makes me cater to his kids when they come by, he has four kids, so that makes me mad, because I am stuck running around doing the things he wants me to do for them. He is a nice man, but nice isn't cutting it for me anymore. I pay for everything, I understand that he could be depressed because he isn't working, but it just doesn't seem like it. Like I said, he spends most nights hanging out with the neighbors, and sleeps all day, how do you look for work when you do that? I love him, but all of this has taken a toll on me, we stopped going to counseling because it got expensive and I had to keep missing work to go. I can't afford to do that. I have two of my own children to think about. I am confused. I have kept a positive attitude, and even praised him, when he starts talking negative about himself, but then he gets beligirant and mean and loud, and I can no longer tolerate his behavior. He says I am so sensitive.