Cat: you have read the thread wrong. That was a relationship between my GIRL friend's brother. Completely different, nothing to do with my brother or my current lover. So your comment about not following a normal dating procedure doesn't make sense. That previous relationship did not start with sex, but friendship. When I say fling, it does not mean sex.. It was a relationship in progress where there was exclusivity but it did just didn't eventuate due to long distance. But that is completely unrelated and over!
My previous post was about the current guy, perfectly normal to ask whether he is turned off. I don't see that isn't normal either!
Thank you for the advice though, I realise people have their different rules on sex. A friend of mine had a 2 year relationship from a one night stand, so I am a little bit more relaxed on the rules! I understand that I owe it to myself to have the exclusivity chat. I just wanted to know when the right time was. And by the sounds, it's when it's feel right. And it feels right for me, as I noted in my first post!