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    Nov 28, 2009, 05:24 PM
    Angry rude adult child living at home
    Angry rude adult child living at home how to cope
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    Nov 28, 2009, 05:34 PM

    Stop doing things for this "child", like washing clothes, cooking, etc, until you get their attention, and most importantly, their respect.

    If not, make them leave.

    Do not allow one of your children, who is supposed to know better, ever disrespect you.
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    Nov 28, 2009, 06:02 PM

    Kick them out, seems simple
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    Nov 29, 2009, 05:32 AM
    I don't know how old this 'child' is, but if the living arrangements are not working, then change them. If you allow this to cause you stress, and upset your life, you can't complain.

    It is also not a good idea to let an adult child not grow up. If they take their anger and frustration out on you, they will never learn to cope themselves in the real world; in other words, you aren't doing him/her any favours by allowing them to continue with this behaviour.
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    Nov 29, 2009, 02:55 PM

    Make it clear to the adult/child that you aren't going to tolerate that kind of behavior anymore.
    If it continues then use some "tough love" and kick the adult/child out if its old enough to live on its own.
    -"Tough love is an expression used when someone treats another person harshly or sternly with the intent to help them in the long run."
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    Dec 2, 2009, 12:13 AM
    Make them have resposibilty... Treat them like and adult . That may be why they are acting out the way they are.. Make them pay their way.. Show them what it could be like , if they don't like it "kick rocks"
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    Aug 23, 2010, 09:38 PM
    My adult child isn't rude,but neither does he speak to us. I do ask him to let me know if he is going to be out all night, (he has add and I have a mentally challenged child living with us.) He does not live with us full time and is currently in the Marines but will be getting out in November. My thought is to treat him like an adult , with guest rules. ( he has also been arrested for DUI (alcohol content of 16)my issuse is not going to be with him but with his father . HE WILL CONVERSE WITH ME . Rule 1 no alcolhol in the house,No 2 no sleepover girlfiend. no.3 must have job or go to school.

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